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The Soul Mate Debate

Are you destined to find true love…or is true love simply hard work?MSN Staff and LifetimeTV.com

We all want to find that special someone with whom we share an intensely deep connection…that person we just know is the "one." We all want to find our Prince Charming.

But do you believe that somewhere out there, there is someone for everyone? Or do you believe that the soul-mate is just a myth fit for romantics unwilling to commit to the work of a relationship?

We spoke to three happily partnered women about how they each found their other half and, after everything, whether they believe in such a thing as a soul mate.

Carol: "No way!"
Meet Carol, happily hitched for over twenty years, who says no to the soul mate debate. She adores her husband, but doesn’t buy the idea of a pre-ordained mystical connection between them.

Amanda: "I found mine."
Amanda’s husband changed her mind. She says she didn’t believe in soul mates until she was bowled over by their deep and immediate bond.

Valerie: "I've had a few."
Valerie’s husband is the "one." But so is her best friend. They both meet her needs for intimate connection in very different ways. Valerie believes there is just more than one kind of relationship out there and no one is limited to just one soul mate.

I very much believe in soul mates! I am on soul mate #5 or 6! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

"Soul Mates" I dunno. But I do believe there are people that are destined to be part of our lives. I have friends that call me out of the blue when I'm having a particularly bad day. My mom, sister and I have a connection when we "sense" things about the other. I can't tell you how many times we've showed up wearing the same color. I had always felt my H and I had a connection. We lived in 2 different states but almost met 3 times. Then we finally met in a gay bar...neither one of us are gay.

Nah. I think that people who meet our ENs best either deliberately or instinctively are whom we consider "soul mates".

Why do I have this sudden urge to go watch a chick flick on A&E? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> soulmates, indeed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />