I will try and make this short as possible. I have been married for 4 years, and we do argue some like any other person, but nothing major. My husband about 2 weeks ago just lost it told me he couldn't handle me not having a job yet, and everything else. He said the best thing would be for me to move out. My H lost his uncle 2 weeks ago, and his father has cancer also, and probably won't make it. Alot of stress, as for me working, I worked in our own business until March of this year, we closed down. I also raise english bulldogs, and had to get a litter of pups raised, which was the first of may when they were all sold. So its been one month of me not working. I don't just sit and sleep all day, I am constantly doing thing that has to get done. Anyways, I love this man more than anything ,and I went as far as begging him, with all my heart and he still turned me away. He said he loved me (that wasn't the problem. But the only way this was to ever work was for me to get my own place, get a job, and show him I could do it, and then in couple months he promised we would work it out. I don't understand how he can even suggest this. I never thought of him cheating, and have had several say that he isn't. His own sister says she don't know what he is doing, that something is wrong with him or bothering him really bad. I had to change direction , a quite crying, so I played like i am going on with my life without the hurt, and he seems to be worring a little more than he was. Please let me know what you all think.

I would get a job asap. Are your finances in trouble? Are you honestly looking for work?

We just closed our business down in march, and for april, I was helping his mother raise a litter of english bulldogs, I have always worked, only been without a job for a month. So that is why this has confused everyone. He has this idea of me getting a home of my own, and a job then in a couple months we could try and work it all out. More or less date. But he is changing everything voicemail on the cell phones to just his name, wanting all his things back, like we are through forever, I also have two boys this is affected they love him so much, and I can't believe he would try and do this idea of his especially with my boys life.

Your H seems to be going through an extraordinarily stressful time in his life,and sometimes when that happens, we take it out on those closes to us.

I would encourage you to look to at least some IC to help you deal with the issue internally. YOu might need to look at plan A/Plan B, and instead encourage him to go get his own place and sort through his own feelings. He may be so wrapped up in himself, he just can't see past it.

You might want to post over in Just Found Out, there's a good group of people there that help others deal with this kind of thing on a regula rbasis.

Well I just found out my H is using steriods, has been for 3-4 months on and off. I knew he had done them before we married. He is obsessed with his muscle gain. All he does is workout in all his free time, and talk about working out. He contradicts his self all the time, never knows what he wants, and one minute he is fine and next he is mad. Could this be a big problem. His own sister says he isn't right, and friends says he don't make since. Any advice appreciated

My exWH started taking all these health pills and they screwed up his temperment. I can't imagine what steriods would do after 3-4 months. I know my son had asthma and had to take steriods once in awhile. ?Boy his temper could get bad. I would talk to him wiht someone else around.