Hi everyone, here is my situation.
My wife and I will have been married 2 years this Sept 14th. I am 27 and she is 24 and we both were friends before we married and were a couple/engaged for 2 years prior to marriage. Currently my wife said she would like to have a seperation due to here not being "happy". I try to be the best husband i can with flowers once a month or so for no reason, foot rubs, back rubs, etc. Now things are not perfect as we do argue abought little stuff and bicker now and then. Nothing too big. I have a daughter who is soon to be 4 that i had prior to meeting my wife, and who my wife loves very much. Also my wifes mother became diganosed with cancer right about the time she told me that she wanted to seperate. I think that has a lot to do with it but my wife says no. Now she has been going out to the bars alot in the past 6 months or so abought 1-2 times a week. I also go but not nearly as much mabe once a month. Due to my father being an acholic it just isnt very appealing to me. Now she hanges out with her girls friends who i have known for quite some time and who are also good friends of mine. But they are all single ?? and one of them she plans to live with while we are seperated. Now the reason i dont like this is due to the fact that even though i know her friends,i also know they spend a great deal of time at the bar at least 3 nights a week and are always partying. My wife says she needs time to figure out if she wants a family children etc. But i told her that is something we are supposed to do as a married couple not as seperate idividuals but she again disagreed. Right now she has agreed to give it some time before makeing her final decision on if she will move out or not (8 weeks). I just would like some help as she means the world to me and even the thought of looseing her is unbearable. Some times she acts very cold as if she is trying to push me away and make me not like her so i will say ok to the seperation and it will be easyer on her. She dosent realise that it will never work as i remember "good times and bad" so im here to stay. Now another thing is both her sisters suffer from depersion and both have said this may be a part of it. But she has barly talked to any of her family abought this seperation, most of her advice seems to be comeing from her friends. Pray for me and Help me please !!!
