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Not bad, my dear bOb !
We used to have an MGF (has just been sold).


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I considered an MGTF but my head stuck above the window frame !

I sit MUCH lower in the Speedster so it got the nod ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Haha! Then MGF is not good for you - the flies tend to stick to your teeth !


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yes just like StrongFoundation on her Harley !! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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I hope to reclaim this summer for love and for good after last was destroyed by Squid's affair.

Sigh, my last three summers have been marred by Princ Charming's affair and this one doesn't look too promising either.

Lucky you! Summer in love! Enjoy!

If you and Squid can do it, hopefully we all will, too!


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XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)


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I know how blessed I am. I just hope Squid knows too.

Oddly, for a beautiful day I'm having a bit of a 'sorry for myself' morning so far.

I have them occasionally.

But I'll get over it. I always do. And I really don't have much to be 'sorry for myself' for any more <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Grrr I'm not letting anything or anyone ruining my summers, springs, winters or autumns anymore !!
I'm reclaiming the lot !

I know about the "sorry for myself" feelings... so I have to include myself in the "anything or anyone" !


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I'm having one of those sorry for yourself days, too.

I've been doing pretty good lately. This giving, giving, giving of Plan A getting nothing, or little, in return is hard work, but even more difficult is always acting so upbeat, especially on a day when you just want to climb under a rock and sob.


Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)


Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
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Dear Losttranslation,
that's exactly why a plan A cannot be continued forever.
WH has to become FWH or at some point you'll have to decide to go to plan B or D.
You're worth having a good, loving partner by your side!
Hang on in there honey...
I have to leave for work now but I'll "transmit" any fun I have today to you, so be prepared <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> !
((((Losttranslation)))) and anyone else here who feels down today.


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LT, I gave a LOT in Plan A - My Squid was totally committed to OM - but now I get more back than I give from Squid.

Totally agree with Brownhair though. Plan A isn't giving without boundaries. If you ar ebeing a dorrmat, go to plan B.

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Thanks bOb and brownhair.

I do have very firm boundaries and Prince Charming will be banned back to his dark and lonely little bachelors pad as of Monday. He'll be coming home to an empty place with dishes to do, dinner to cook, laundry and cleaning. Hopefully it will hit him like a 2x4 after his really nice two weeks of having the family dote on him every evening.

No, I won't become a doormat, just a welcome mat and I do do things to reward myself. I'm doing better at enjoying life again, just a PMS kind of day today and a little burnt out...

Nice to have friends to talk to this with!


Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)


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Bob - please e-mail me at [email]chacklerbelle@yahoo.com.[/email] I need your help with someone who's wife had an affair...


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BS 36
EA lasted 3 months
First D-Day: 3/7/04
Second D-Day with total truth: 4/13/04
NC established: 4/14/04
In recovery and doing wonderful!
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yes just like StrongFoundation on her Harley !! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'm investing heavily in toothpicks! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

My laptop broke 2 nights ago <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> so I've had to fire up the desktop....not so convenient!

Honestly Bob fancy losing your kets! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Basingstoke is just down the road from me...in fact hubby worked at "that" very office until he moved to Farnborough. No longer working for them now.....escaped last year.

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After reading through some melancholic posts I wanted to raise my Diet Coke and say "here's to a summer in love".

Summer wasn't so good last year for us either. It's good to feel "connected" now.

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Hi Chackler

Mail sent.

Hope I can help.

* All

MAN ! Yesterday I drove home from basingstoke in teh blistering 35deree heat, and today its bucketing down with rain !

Ahh...English summers ! No wonder the Brits pester France, Spain , Florida and Greece every summer !


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b0b, you know we love our weather really... what else do we have that is as interesting?

Are you and yours off to any those destinations you mentioned this summer, b0b? The girls and I are off to Barcelona to visit friends in August.

Alph.


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Alph, Squid and I have a challenge - I work all over the place so I like to spend my Holiday sat home or in Wales...SQUID adores travel so wants to go to the most esoteric and wierd places imaginable !

This year I don't think we'll go on a foreign holiday.

I can't book in good faith for this summer with MIL so very ill ( "well, she's BOUND to be dead by then so I'll book...see my point" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> )

And our usual Xmas in the sun is squished because my neice is getting married on Dec 28th and my Kate is a bridesmaid.

It won't hurt us for one year. Especially if we have a nice summer weather wise.

We love rural greece, and try to go every couple of years or so.

I've worked in barcelona but never holidayed there. Spend a lovely couple of weeks in Alicante, down the coast a few years ago however.

We foolishly booked an 'allocate on arrival' holiday and we were taken to a horrible dosshouse in benidorm where the elevators swilled with vomit and the rooms were like stys.

I called my company's travel agent who got us a junior suite in the Melia Alicante and we went there next day. THAT was lovely !


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Alphin it's great you have Barcelona booked up!

The good run of weather finally broke today in the South....thunderstorm all afternoon and it's still raining. Of course the heavens chose school pick-up to open up. Soggy mummy and children as my lightning conductor (umbrella) wasn't big enough for the 3 of us!

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Can't wait to go, StrongFoundation!

It will be great to have a break from plan A as well - forget all about WH for a week. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Alph.


Me, BS 37 Him, WXH (Noddy) 40 DD13, DD6 Married 14th August 1993 D/Day 2nd April 05 Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28 Divorce final 6th July '06. Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx ...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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To quote big Arnie "I need a vacation" (spoken in a thick Austrian accent).

You guys come to the continent... I love coming to England. Have spent many wonderful holidays in the South of England, Cornwall, Isle of Man.

I just finished planning the holiday roster with my colleguae in Brussels and it looks like August is out for me, no time for vacation, so I'll have to move it up to July or move it on to September!

As all my money is going to the work on my new home I'll probably have to take my tent..

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Enjoy your trip, Alphin! You definitely need a break from plan A and doing something just for you!

No rain here yet - it's still somewhere over the North Sea I guess. Clouds are building up, though.

Poor Bob - 35° isn't fun, especially when you need to stop the car. I love my airconditioned car very much right now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

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