I agree with all of you... A infidelity course should be taught for pre-deployment and the effects of an A.

Funny thing is WH (currently depolyed in Iraq, in an A) used to put down X-BIL(active army stationed in Germany) for cheating on my sister and how to get back on him by telling his CO'. I reminded him about this and said yeah im such a hypocrite what" i despisied most and went and did IT myself."
Good thing about X-BIL, the judge told him off about getting his 3rd divorce and that he must be sick in the head to be getting married , have kids and inless than a year divorce these innocent women and find himself OW to marry AGAIN! ( I am so GLAD sister opened- her eyes and let this one GO! Now he has to support 4 children from 3 different woman! Not much pay left for him.

Sad thing is the children are the ones who suffer from these A's to top off the absence of parents and having to move all the time. You would think the military would see that they are the #1 's who suffer from this!

My experience is that an EA is the worse!!!! "Just my friend", "they need me", "we talk about our marriages". Very dangerous!!!! And so easy to fall into. Their morals go right on out the window.

I have some very strong feelings about it!!! But I know what comes around goes aaround and he is already back in Korea, came back the last time in 99, my kids have bets on whether this marriage will survive as "she needs him so badly". Don't know how many old HS GF he had out there though!!!!

My 2 cents worth for today, it is funny that he is staying for 30 now so that I can't have child support and retirement at the same time!!!!!

Dawn <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Former Army officer here. Never married while I was in the Army, but I "picked up" a woman while I was at Ft. Benning. As the date progressed, things didn't add up and I figured she was married and her hubby was deployed.

I dropped that.

MPs are not above military law as I had a pretty nice looking, but married female MP hit on me while I was stationed in Germany.

I busted a few soldiers for fooling around, and warned a few others off. Told them to knock off their affair or this is what I would do, showing them what I could do under the UCMJ.

As a platoon leader, I had a platoon SGT who was an E6 promotable get caught having an affair with a soldier in another company. We busted him to E5, so it was like he lost two stripes. He lost his soon to be promotion to E7, plus the rocker he already had. Not to mention he didn't complete a year as a platoon sgt. Definately a career limiting move.

I worked for a CPT, our company commander who got caught with his pants down. He lost his command and was quickly moved out of the country. (Back to the USA where his wife went when she found out.)

My unit was a special Army artillery unit, with Pershing-II missles (complete with nuclear warheads.) While is was a very high-stress job, the command was very serious about "distractions" and dealt with them harshly.

Finally, my ex-wife is having her affair with a retired Navy Commander. He is mid-divorce from a 30 year marriage. So he WILL lose half of everything, pay some serious alimony and will still have to support an adult developmentally disabled child.

Duty Honor and Country are just words unless you choose to actually believe them and live them. Many officers and enlisted personel do not choose to live those words.

TB

And you are correct sir. That is why those of us that serve honorably, and have served honorably, must uphold those standards. And drum out those that dont.

In His arms.

I found out WH A started as a EA and turned PA , two weeks before deployment! I saw the signs but he denied it and of course gave me the invading my privacy (saw cellphone bill) and questioned her #! Still kept tabs on it and finally he confesed.

I am currently in the process of finding out who is his Co and etc. He is a plt leader and up for his E-6 promotion in the next month or so. He knows I have his B**** in the palm of my hands not to mention hers. (knowing he is married!) Its sad it has to come to hurting his career but he knew exactly what they were doing and consequences to it!
I believe every BS should take advantage of the punishments available to us!

Thanks for sharing your story...

Through your program, if you can can save ONE couple, you have done well!

Best wishes...

WNB