Hello all,
I'm a new member, wishing I never had to visit this board in the first place! I found out yesterday inadvertently that my husband is having an EA (at least!) with someone. Apparently he did not realize that Google Desktop indexes your email too, and while doing a search for something else, I came across messages from him to another woman. He says he loves her in these notes, "wants" her, and cannot wait to be with her. She apparently lives across the country from us and from the few messages I read, I could not tell whether they have met in person yet. But they are planning to get together soon while I am out of town for a week. In my house! I am so pissed, it is not even funny!

We've been married for 3 years and have an almost two year old child. How could he do this to us and to our child? His own father left him when he was 2, so I guess it is like father like son. Anyway, I've gotten TONS of great info from this site already and want to be sure that I collect as much proof as I can before D-Day. I am currently acting like nothing is wrong and will continue to do so. I still love him and would like to work on our marriage and fix this. But I know that cannot always happen. My first priority is my child and doing whatever possible to make sure that I get custody of him and not my WS.

So I would like to install spyware on our computer so that I can continue to gather proof. Can anyone point me in the direction of a reputable package to use? One that isn't going to show a banner ad when I start up the PC or put something in the tray at the bottom. My husband owns a lot of guns and has a VERY hot temper so I want to avoid any confrontation until I know I am in a safe place, my son is protected and I have all my ducks in a row. The last thing I want is for him to find out I have bugged the computer. Can anyone help?

Thanks so much. I am so happy to have found this board.

Lani

I have read that Spector is a reliable product. Don't use a "sample" product, as they will pop up unexpectedly.

http://www.spectorsoft.com/

I have not used the product, but I've seen other references to it in these forums.

Good luck!
SD

I used this http://www.exploreanywhere.com/sb-intro.php

but a word to the wise, when Norton Antivirus ran it's weekly scan, it came up with 2 .dll programs associated with this software. In my case it didn't matter because I didn't take the time to talk to the folks on here and confronted my WH as soon as I read the incriminating logs.
But, it may be something you should be aware of with this and perhaps other spyware programs.