my h had multiple affafirs when confirmed carried on seeing her gave her up without me seeing letter .
he came only four times to therapy now not going not doing him any good, he told mevery early on details about affairs i was not ready to hear because he needed to
off load.
he wont read any litrature,parcipate in any questions,he seems to think im staying thats enough get on with it.
he made promises that he has never forfilled allthough i have now told him that if by next tues nothing on the list is done im going to leave ,i have already made appoinment
with solicter as i know deep down ther isno dersire on his part to forfill these promises
i would really like to have made this work,but you can only do so if both partners sre wiiling to look at what went wrong what do you to prevent reoccurence
this is a good site wher both partners are wiiling to work at it
what do you do when only one is willing
any sugestions appreciated

Wow - You are very early in this to give up. I hope you will stick around here and do more reading. Your situation sounds very hopeful to me - if he really has stopped having contact with her.