I'll agree with you on this one. She didn't have to make time between her previous committments to see you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Good job! Persistence is not a bad thing...and neither is being over-eager. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

i like the relaxed attitude. . . no pressure. . . if it works, it works, if not, no bother. . . keep up the "just a guy" attitude.

this is great practice, trying different approaches, not getting all wound up with anticipation. . .

wiftty

Keep telling yourself that. I wish that was the case, but honestly, it wasn't. I hope one day, I can get to the point where "it really doesn't matter" to me. But I've never really been that way.

But I guess as long as I can present myself as not being a complete emotional landmine, I'll be ok, right?

But outwardly, yes, I am playing it "cool."

Put the brakes on the happy wagon....

We had practice tonight, and the teammate was there. We didn't talk until after practice. I told her I had a good time on Monday, and asked if we were still on for Friday.

Not so fast, my friend.

She said that the restaraunt (I hate that word) she works at booked a party reservation for 10 PM, and she wouldn't be out of there in time to go. (Although she wasn't planning on being out of there before 11:00 anyway, and that wasn't an issue before) She didn't make any kind of counter offer, (not that I expected her to....) so I kinda get the finger.

So there. Not sure how to proceed from here. We seemed to really have a lot to talk about, and seemed to get along really well. I would like to give her benefit of the doubt, and believe her story about work. But the cynical side of me wonders if dinner on Monday was more to appease me and get me to leave her alone. We were supposed to go earlier, but we ended up going late and conveniently right before she was on her way to go bowling....

I would still like to pursue this, but I've been rejected a lot, and if I'm spinning my wheels, I'd rather just pack my stuff and try, try again.

Not sure how to proceed.

And now, I don't have a date to the concert. Got an extra ticket, anybody wanna go?

I'm trying to keep telling myself to not get discouraged.... sometimes it works for me, sometimes it doesn't.

And I know that God has me right where I'm supposed to be right now. I don't understand why, and I damn sure don't like it.

But there's a reason.....

I guess.

Not to be a wet blanket, but I read this whole thread, an I am not surprised. Frankly, I fail to see a single sign of her being interested in you (accepting an offer of a free concert ticket doesn't count). All I see is you pursuing her, and her being a very clear distancer.

Any good relationship needs to be grounded in mutual interest. I hate to say it, but I just don't see this kind of mutual interest present here. She seems to view you as a bud, but not any more special than the rest of the team buddies. I don't see anywhere where she made you feel special compared to the rest of the crowd. Again, her consenting to one dinner meeting with you, after numerous attempts on your part, does not count.

She has not demonstrated any willingness to be flexible in order to see you - everything revolves around her work, workout buddies, and coworkers. You are only seen when it fits in her schedule - that is a bad sign. Someone who was interested in you would make the time and effort, and would not simply squeeze you in for a quick (free) dinner between her workout and her bowling.

Has there been any indication, or any phrase she used, to indicate that she is interested in you in any way romantically? I haven't seen it in this thread.

Again, sorry if I seem like the wet blanket - I have unfortunately been in this situation, and it sucks. Best to move on to someone who appreciates you, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

AGG

FM,

I agree with GoodGuy. I think you have demonstrated to her plenty that you are interested and now she needs to do some of the work (that is if she's interested, too).

You have done a great job and you've been a gentleman, so even if she's not interested, don't fret it. You may be saved from more head(heart)ache. And dont' ever take it personal. I know that is easier said that done, but don't let a rejection get to you.

You are a great guy and like GoodGuy said in his message to you, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea. Take your time.

One of my good girlfriends recently met a guy at a local coffeeshop that she frequents on Sunday mornings. She was in her sweats (looking like h*ll - according to her - not that I believe that...) and they chatted while waiting in line for their coffee. Well, they ended up talking for three straight hours and that was a few months ago and now they are a couple and they are so in love. Sometime, you have to let love find you. My friend went thru an awful divorce (infidelity was involved) and she got incredibly hurt, but she never stopped believing in the good of people and she never stopped believing in love.

Let love find you, Ethan, because it will....

Take care of yourself

update? Didya talk to her anymore? Who's goin with ya to the concert? Where do you live? (just kiddin <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> )

What a great story...it gives me hope as I feel the same way that she does...after being treated SO poorly by those that "love" us,

I STILL believe in the idea of a COMMITTED and REAL M with someone who looks as good on Sunday morning with messy hair, morning breath and pajamas as they do on "date night".

That REAL "beauty" is a REAL relationship developed over time...

I look forward to finding it again...

WNB

Nothing to update, really. I haven't spoken with her since practice on Wednesday. We have a game tomorrow evening, so I'll run into her there. I don't plan on bringing up anything "date" related with her. It's actually a good thing that she didn't go, I suppose. If she had come after work, she would have missed most of the show, as it ended around 12.

I went to the show with the other friends I had planned on going with, so I still had a good time.

I do agree with what was said about the TM above. The only interest she has shown was saying that she wanted to go to dinner. But I have learned from MB, that words aren't important, actions are.

She has my number and email address, and knows where to find me.

Thursday night, I ran into a cute young lady and her sister that I had met a couple of months ago. They remembered me, and we chatted again. I found out that they were going to the concert as well. She gave me her number so we could catch up at the concert on Friday. So I met her, her sister and her boyfriend (boooooo) on Friday night. They came and watched the show with us, and she and I got along really well.

My friends were totally impressed by this girl. (And I was, too...) Her BF is a total zero, and I've ascertained that they haven't been together very long. One of my friends (and his GF) told me that I should just ask her out. Of course, I'm not going to do that, because it's just wrong. She is coming to this espresso cafe with me on Thursday to see a couple of my friends play some acoustic stuff. I have no idea who's coming with her.

That should be interesting....