I don't know what to say. I never thought this would happen to me. I just had got remarried. I married a physician, and he was in bible college also, for ministry training. He went to my brother's church. I thought I knew him. I have a daughter from a previous marriage. She is 15. Last week he told me about his double life. I don't know how he concealed this. I had no real choices here. I saw a lawyer and found out that I had to have an annullment. I had no real rights, unless I sue him. I think I am in shock. I saw a psychiatrist yesterday. I have not left the apartment in two days. He is living elsewhere. My daughter went to my mom's for a break. I was trying to keep composed for her. The Dr. says my Blood Pressure is up though from being composed more than likely since I lead a clean life and have no weight problems. I feel so confused. Angry. Cheated. And I think my credibility is now at stake. I never had a clue. Any comments?

marriedabigamist may I call you mbt for now?

mbt

I'm so sorry to hear you have been hurt so badly by this person who you thought was so wonderful.

I feel you need some good advice from our long time posters here who have so much experience so I firstly suggest you copy or move your post across to General Questions 11 - GQ11 - where many hang out. The weekends are very slow with people being out doing things except for those of us where its raining.... GQ11 has a load of posters there anyway.

Please jump across so you can get some advice and support even if its just to vent.

Again so sorry that this has happened to you.

MBT, I find the Quickstart very worthwhile; the top post in the forum. I have read it now over 10 times and each time some new nugget pops out. Dealing with the knowledge that the A happened is killa. I share your feelins of loss of credibility but I also know that I am not responsible for my mate's behaviors. I often think about human weakness and how fragile people are, but they have to be strong enough to create a whole double life and actually live it! That's not weakness that's incredible strength, but wow, so much effort to hide and deceive. I often wonder why that effort wasn't put into the M. Just thoughts. The old saying 1 day at a time, really applies. Good Luck

Interesting outlook, and thanks for your insight. Truthfully, with so many family member calling and asking why, it never really occurred for me to ask why. I guess it would take a lot of strength to go this far, and a lot of effort to conceal it. I take that as be careful. Steer clear of him. This I already knew to be true, after finding this out. My atty. helped by telling me never to talk to him or see him again. The atty. actually came out and asked me, "do you plan on seeing him or continueing a relationship with him now"? I told him Never. So now, I have to move on and it feels like he took a wrecking ball to my family and me. They are acting devestated. The worse thing is not knowing how to explain to my kid's father this mess. He will not be happy.

Update: Have talked to police. Records are all there. He filed for a divorce from the other after his marriage records date to me. Pretty much open and shut. Basically,the choice is not mine. He broke the law as the police said, and he will be arrested. Wow, that is a big thing.
This gives me guilty feelings, but I know that he will learn the hard way for very evil decisions.
One good thing here is, I am detaching alot from this,and realizing there is life after this. I am thankful for friends. I am thankful for what I do have. I know he is not really a good person and I have had to come to that realization. I think shock is over and now, I don't even think I am acting in a revenge state.

guilty feelings? Why are you taking this on yourself? You were victimized, he broke the law, he will be prosecuted.

No way you are acting in a revenge state. You are scraping something dirty off of your shoe.