The cell phone details were posted for the last billing period which goes through 6/14 and since we have a combined plan I can see his call history. Looks like it's not over like he's claimed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

It appears they are talking to each other before they go to bed.

C'mon! When am I going to catch a break dammit!?

I haven't told him that I know, should I?

Interestingly, I got 2 anonymous calls late last night, both from some woman. Both untraceable. First one said, "you are SO stupid!", second, "you B*TCH!"

Think she's trying to let me know she's unhappy the A has been exposed at their office and the bosses are NOT happy and have let both of them know it?

I think I know how you feel. My H told me he quit contact with her and I checked the cell phone bill this week and found out that he's been talking to her daily for the last several months. He even called her after we had sex. He claims he is weak and has no control - and he won't go get help.

I don't have any words of encouragement for you other than to be strong. I wish I was as strong as you have been. I made the decision to give up and file for the divorce.

Stop, yes you should tell him.

(((((Stop))))))
I am sorry about this new development and the hurt it is causing you.
Things like these make me want to slap some WS's around her into shape and do some cell phone breaking involving monster trucks.

I agree with Melody, you should tell him.

I agree with Mel also, you should tell him. It's not like you were even snooping....it's a joint account. He's not even trying to hide it.

Sorry that the OW called you and said those things.....but that means that exposure is working....she's apparently quite uncomfortable.....isn't that a shame? NOT lol

-Caren

Stop - I would calmly tell him. Then I would get with the phone company and block unknown numbers. You know that you have her fired up now. And, sadly, your husband will not believe she called and said those things.

I would also tell him that you are recieving prank/hate calls and tell him to warn OW that you are going to call the police if it doesn't cease and desist.

OP's have balls of freakin steel don't they? UGH

-Caren

Or brains of mush! lol

Well he called me this morning. I had called him last night and left a vmail telling him about the phone calls. He said he talked to the OW and she insists she didn't make the calls <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> and of course, he believes her because it's "just not her personality". Give me a break.

I reminded him that she lied to me very easily on the phone and to my face, but "I guess you know her better". PUKE!
I also reminded him that:

• 1. we've *never* gotten these calls before;
• 2. we have an unlisted AND unpublished phone number;
• 3. You both just spoken to yesterday about the drama this A has caused in your office

He says she was going to ask if her friend may have done it (yeah...uh huh). But he did ask her if she was drinking last night and maybe, did she do it and maybe not remember, hmmm? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Oh...doubt...yes! Then he tells me he had been getting anonymous hang ups this week too! Gee..I say, think it's the same person? Maybe, he says, he'll figure it out.

We ended up having a decent friendly conversation. Go figure. It ended with him saying he will make the MC appt. I also asked him if he's thought about moving back home while we try to sort this out. He didn't flat out say no, but he did say he'll wait and see what the MC does. I was a good girl and didn't push.

Did you tell him you knew he was still in contact with the OW?

And do you also know that MC is a waste of money at this stage? Better to just flush the money down the toilet and save yourself the gas to drive there.

Instead, I would concentrate on busting up this little affair. You have exposed them at work. What about her family? She is single, I take it? What about your family, his family, your close friends?

I casually asked him if he's stopped all non-professional contact with her like he agreed to do, and he said yes. I asked if I'll be surprised when I see the phone bill. Wee, then he proceeded to tell me he still talks to her once in a while to talk about "work stuff" and to apologize for what happened. So I said you are going to remain friends with her then? He said he can't just cut her off. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

She's recently separated from her H. I have told him about the A. He was upset but that's all I know at this point. She claims they are getting a D.

All mine and his family know, close friends know for sure now, his boss's know and the OWH knows. The OW is living with her parents but I do not feel comfortable contacting them, even I knew how to, about it. Thoughts on this?

I can stall the MC, but I am the one who pushed for it. It would be silly for me to back off it now. I can probably put it off a week since I know the dr we've chosen will be going out of town for a week starting Tuesday.

He can't just "cut her off" because the affair is still ongoing. As long as they are still in contact, they are still having the affair. Calling it "professional" is just a ruse to carry on the affair. Contact is contact no matter what silly label you apply.

Did her H confirm that they are seperated? Did he confirm that they are getting a divorce? I would touch base with him again and ask him if he wants to save his marriage. Tell him about MB. He could be a great resource.

I would also strongly recommend calling or writing her parents and telling them about the affair. That's ok that you feel discomfort about it, you wouldn't be normal if you did. However, you must do what it takes to make this affair as uncomfortable as possible.

Stop, nothing short of REAL no contact will ever facilitate recovery in your marriage. Please don't settle for this "professional" contact ruse, it won't work. Your marriage will never recover until all contact ends. Harley recommends moving to another state, if need be, to ensure that all contact ends.

How about calling him back and telling him the truth instead of playing this cat and mouse game? Tell him you know he is still in his affair and has been talking to her every night. Stop setting him up to tell you lies. Let him know he is busted and don't give him the opportunity to lie to you.

You guys don't me get away with nothin' do ya?




Thanks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

No, we don't. Because we are on YOUR side! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />