What are the good things you have found about being single again? New opportunities, friends, activities, interests, job, whatever????


My first item is that I can do the single thing again without having to worry about being raising a family, buying the house, etc. Been there, done that, no need to repeat!

I'm a night owl, and I like being able to stay up as late as I wish, or even crawl into bed and watch a late movie or read in bed without disturbing someone else. I require very little sleep, and do not like having to go to bed when I'm not tired. I also don't keep a very regular schedule and that includes when I go to bed, when I get up, when I eat, and what I eat - I'm willing to scrounge in the fridge when I'm busy doing other things.

I have lots more free time. As a married person we were either together as a family or, more likely than not, I was with the kids myself. I do miss family time together but I'm doing more & more with the kids myself so we do have family time, although a smaller version.

It's also exciting to meet new people. I'm sure there is someone out there with whom I can have a close, intimate relationship. Someone who can understand & express his feelings & with whom I can be myself.

I am not sure I could say I "prefer" being single. But, if we're trying to look at the positive things, I do enjoy having my own closet <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. I like watching whatever I want on TV, doing my own laundry, and picking up only after myself (dishes, no dirty clothes on the floor <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />, etc). I've gotten to know myself better, and have grown in many areas. I've learned to find ways to seek my own happiness (hobbies, faith, etc), and to develop and value friendships and relationships I should have done before.

Thanks, Justin. Feeling lonely these days. It's VERY good to kinda step back and appreciate and value what we have, and where we are, and surrender what we're missing and what we DON'T have for a lil bit.

I too like the freedom.

Not having to pick up after the ex-wife, SD and YD.

Being able to expect YD (almost 7) to pick up after herself without being scolded by ex-wife.

Drinking milk from the jug if I want to <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Having a bit more cash.

Being able to do what I want to do with YD without being scolded by ex-wife.

Did I mention a clean house.

Being able to put MY car in the garage.

Being able to wander around the house naked it I want to.

Total control over the thermostat and the remote control. (The TV is usually off now!)

Being able to take a weekend trip if I want to without most of the logistical hassles that came with ex-wife.

When on the road, stopping when MY bladder is full and not every 47 minutes when someone elses is <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

T

Not quite single yet, but I am already living alone...

- buy what I want...I have been out shooting a WHOLE lot more since STBXW moved out...gotta keep myself busy NOT thinking aobut her.

It gets easier every day.

WNB

I'm not quite divorced yet but I've been living alone now for a year. I also enjoy my freedom. I'm able to come and go as I please and don't have to answer to anyone else. There is so much I miss but I have to look at the positive side of things. I also think it will be fun to meet new people and choose a different path in life than I was living!!!

Having the weight of the wife removed from my shoulders. Shees..I did not need to join a gym, not after carrying her baggage around...:)

Honestly though, setting my out time lines, my true "me" came out.

We had maybe 5 friends when we were together, I have moved into a cool apt. complex, full of kids for my kids, and a great pool. Im a big time pool person, and have many, many friends there now. Its like the sun is shinning directly on me. Flirtatious by nature, I am truly in my element. Ni kidding...I would not trade this for anything....

Confused,
"Being able to wander around the house naked it I want to."

Next time you are married, make sure you can STILL do that when you are married. That should be mandatory. (I can't find the gremlins, so I am winking).

I've never been married without kids around. Ex wife came with a 6 year old daughter when we married. So naked time was really limited <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Too limited <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

T

Hi JE,

I'm not D'd quite yet but been living sans WH for some time now.

Things I enjoy about being "single".Just to name a few:

-No one else to answer to.I can make all decisions on my own without any interference.

-No dirty socks and clothes to pick up off the floor.

-No one(WH) waiting in the driveway with the engine running when we go see family(even though I helped get the kids ready and I was not given enough time to get ready myself! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />).I can leave *anytime I darn well please!*

-No cranky WH getting irritated at kids and making everyone miserable.

-No more controlling WH to contend with.

-I enjoy my own company. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

-Stress free, peaceful environment to raise my children.

-No more freight train snoring partner in the same bed.ahhhhhh

-Just enjoying life more without the dull,emotionless,unexciting WH around.I know that may sound harsh but when I look back at the recent times before WH committed adultery,he really was withdrawn.Hardly laughed,too serious and spent way too much time on his computer ignoring his family and not helping much at all,with anything(i.e. I would come home after a grocery trip and not only would he not open the door for me,he wouldn't help me unload groceries or even help put them away).No teamwork.

I don't miss that at all.

O

I've found myself FINALLY able to do what I want to...

I karaoke almost every Friday night.

I am learning to play the guitar.

I get my own time with my kids.

I get to go hang out with my buddies at the sand volleyball courts (next year I hope to actually play)

My house is much cleaner now...even the kids help out.

I can tryout for/be in plays and not feel bad about having rehearsals.

I can wear my baseball cap backwards and NOT have someone tell me I look dumb...(well, besides my kids that is...lol).

Mostly, I can just enjoy learning who I am and then actually BEING that person.

I have energy. I can make plans and decisions. I can actually start and finish home improvement projects. I don't have someone telling me how to do something only to find out later that person didn't really know better than me.(That one's pretty big) I can use half the basement and soon the whole basement. Not cooking when the girls are with their dad. Freedom to do something for myself. Not having someone read the paper while I do housework.

Not disrespected.

Appreciated.

Thanked.

Loved.

(Thank God for daughters. And for family & friends.)

FR <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

A time for reacquainting with oneself. Trying new things. Reinventing ourselves. Rejuvenating ourselves.

Why can't we reinvent ourselves from WITHIN a marriage? Dunno, but seems we can't, won't, or just don't.

Flirting... butterflies in the stomach wondering what *he* thinks... giggling and acting like a kid...

And good point Deja Vu!!!

Hi to all,
I eat better when I'm single. I do more in general and am usually thinner <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Staying up late, reading all night with the heat on... big plus for me.

Loved having control over my finances...

Course the best thing is not getting screamed at by some loon who thinks it's his job... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />