Hadn't seen any postings in a while...

Hope things are going as well as can be expected...

WNB

Hey do you have ESP???? I just thinking of u this am -

I've been really busy and I won't use my home computer to post to MB.

I did see the $$$ attorney and she's great..she just has the air about her and she's someone I want to work with..not like the others where I was wishywashy..about how they could/would go for the throat..It was easy to see that she's a tiger in a pretty/professional package..and will do it all with a smile..that's what I need...

She feels w/o a doubt that I have the uppper hand & I should fight to retain my part of the business..SHe also said she can/will get this done in year..She will not allow him to drag it out..and I believe she can do it..

I don't know if I posted this or not but - in the past 2 weeks he's been slowly treating me better, stepping into my space - etc. He even booked a trip w/our friends to Vegas..IS HE NUTS...There is NO WAY IN HE## he's stepping back into my life so easily..IF at all..

He's doing this becoz we have a major competitor that will be in our "backyard" within the next year and he's worried about losing alot of business $S$$ and having a divorce at the same time..so what now he's going to be nice to me??? Use me again...forget it..I can't do this again..

Do I relish the idea of being in business but D from him?? Not really, but it would help to retain my lifestyle, etc. which I really fear losing.We would have to put into place a major partnership agreement - and yet I'd still worry about his drinking, driving, womanizing..this man is drinking 6-7 days of the week..not falling down drunk but he's not sitting in a bar drinking ice tea..either..

I have started to look at houses - which is a little depressing since I love my home but I can't maintain all the grass, etc. so I need to find something smaller w/less maintenance..The area doesn't have alot of houses for sale but I gotta get out and away from him..Because he will NEVER change..I'll always be looking over my shoulder and I truly don't like the man he's become and I can't accept what he's done w/soooo many woman..Could he accept if I was a tramp????

I still don't understand HOW/WHY they (serial cheats) don't see it???? See that the OP is weak, cheap, etc. Oh, my spouse is a creep so I'll just have an A..I deserve it..
What man/woman wants a life or anything to do w/someone so weak that they so easily fall into A's ??? If anyone should have had A's it would be the BS - who has held on for so long and has been dumped on over and over again..the BS that is so unloved, so emotionally empty, lonely, etc. Yet, some of us hold our head high and wait it out..We no matter how drained know that we won't become what they are..we can't lower our standards & moral..or we won't be any better than the serial cheat..

I'm waiting for my freedom from all this pain..I just need to maintain our informal separated status..That will help me in court...He he wants to act like a single man -- fine,,I'll give him that...I'll walk away and let him go....

Gez,,, I sure rambled here..now you'll be sorry you asked...hahahhahhha

Hugs my cyber friend...

I don't have ESP, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night! Ha ha

I would agree with the "no MB" at home...there is NO teling if your WH is monitoring your posts. I don't have to worry about that, as when I gave STBXW the "work on our M or move out" ultimatum...she left QUICKLY! Rather telling IMHO

I am glad to hear you got a real "shark"...there is nothing like a pretty smile to go with that "take no prisoner's" outlook...you WH won't know what to think!

I agree...it seems like he's back in manipulation mode again...why would he start being nice? If he was REALLY serious, a normal person would TALK to the other party an come to an agreement of sorts.

Good on you...keep your guard up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

As long as that partnership agreement PROTECTS your financial interests from the results of his behavior (he'll crash evenetually), it should be OK. Will it cause you undue grief still having to work with your ex-WH or can you compartmentalize that?

Houses are a REAL commodity in my area (east coast)..people are waiving the inspection and paying $5000 abouve listed price...the competition is cutthroat! Good luck on your search...I hope your area isn't as bad.

I am keeping up with Coaches nightmare and I hear an angel in my ear "There but for the Grace of God (and seven years), go I"

I can really see me being in his shoes in 7 years IF STBXW was even willing to work at it...can I live the rest of my life waiting for the other shoe to drop? Not on your life...

I have asked her WHY innumerable times, but at the first "point of departure"...the first time the PA happened, she had a CHOICE and the serial cheaters live for the MOMENT...no thought to the future. Some have more of a conscience about what they do, they might actually feel bad about it, but it doesn't stop them... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

You have your head on straight...he does not. That's your trump card...you are THINKING...he is not

You are miles ahead of him! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />



Your reformed WS in crime...

WNB

I am going to be MB-free for a while (2 - 3 weeks)starting THursday...going to visit family for a while.

An agreement is already in place with my family...NO "WNB relationship" talk! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I want to be ME..not the BH of a serial WW.

I'll certainly catch up when I return

Maybe... I just learned that laws in my state (and many others) actually give my H rights to MY real estate, because I bought a new home before we were divorced. He has made sure I know he has rights to it!

Deja - Absolutely he will own 1/2 of the home I buy..My attorny's simple answer is - it is just an advance on "the" settlement..Simple as that..It bothered me at first then when I thought yeah - but I still own 1/2 the house he'll be living in to..I just dont' know how much to spend..I love my current home that WH and I built together..It is completely done..drapes, furniture, everything is complete..I spent odles of hrs. picking everything..paint, wall coverings, etc. now I have to leave those things I loved - that hurts alot.

So why should I RENT and live in some dump till our D is final..while he lives in our beautiful home...I've been miserable for almost 2 years I need a new life and a nice home to go with it.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
Our current home is paid for so not having a mortgage against it is nice - It's basically money in the bank..Let him go get a loan.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />