I am new so I not sure of what I am doing. My and I have been having problems for a while but recently she told me that she didnt love me the way a wife should love a husband. I had been trying to get her to go to counciling and she finally said she would go. Yesterday she told me that she was going to leave but she would wait until we go to counciling. She told me she would try but she just didnt know if it would work. I know She loves me but I just cant seem to make her happy. I love her with all my heart and I really want to save my marriage what do I do. Is there anything that I can do. I am willing to do anything to keep my wife and to keep my children.

There are lots of options.

First, read *everythin* you can find on this site in the Basic Concepts and Q&A section. Then go back and read it again. Dr. H has stuffed those sections with all kinds of goodness that can offer real opportunites to restoring your marriage.

Make *sure* you read the sections on finding a good marriage counselor. COnsider giving the Harley's themselves a call and talking to them.

There are a few fundamental principles to take note of right away. Getyourself familiar with the Love Bank, stop all Love Busters.

A copy of His Needs/Her Needs from Dr. H wouldn't be a bad thing to pick up as well.

And just to toss it out there as food for thought, is there any chance there is someone else? Maybe not a physical affair but an emotional affair?

You may want to post in the EN or JFO sections, they get a bit more traffic from people in your specific type of situation.

Good luck, keep us up to date.