Dog,

What you are doing is ANTI-MBer's.

Even if your marriage doesn't succeed after you exhaust every avenue you will be better off mentally.

If you just bail it is going to be a future of what if's...that will only get worse the older your child gets.

Take a step back Dogdad...you need to disconnect for a minute and do some serious soul-searching.

Good Luck

RM

I had this really long email string done up and it timed out. The path I'm on is very difficult and I really appreciate everyone's thoughts and counsel. I know that my W is continuing the A, though no sexual contact only emotional contact, OP is friend from work or something. have started a sep agreement and she really wants me to make this as easy as possible. My plan is to make things as difficult as possible emotionally by trying my best for the remaining time she is present in our home, to meet her needs. I really want to do that. It may sound insane, but I am also going ahead with good faith negotiations for her eventual departure. I don't see a conflict btwn the two, especially since my dau is in the balance. I will give it my complete attention and energy. MTF

My plan is to make things as difficult as possible emotionally by trying my best for the remaining time she is present in our home, to meet her needs. I really want to do that. It may sound insane,
Why do you think it sounds insane?
This is directly inline with MB principles.

My plan is to make things as difficult as possible emotionally
Rather than trying to make it "difficult", you are showing her the best option. (I think this is what you were trying to get across.)

Yes, Yes, that is what I am trying to get across. It's really hard though when there is so much neg and resistance, even begging from her to just let give her what she wants - the divorce. It took a long way to get there but that is the path I am on and will try with all my energy to meet her needs. We even talked about needs this AM and for the first time she cried and said she was feeling guilty about the pain she's caused. I just wanted to hug her! She even said she would go with me to see a counselor, but of course it won't change the outcome. We took the kids out to Medievil Times last night; she got really hurt by me not sitting next to her and being with her. I really wanted to and from now until she leaves I will put myself out for her. I want to do that. WI think I get it, I can still prepare but the behaviors and love I show her should not be removed. Walking the most difficult road I've ever taken. MTF Thanks so much for the encouragement. I needed it.