I have been married for almost 11 yrs. This all started about 6 yrs ago. My H had a weekend drinking problem. He would sometimes become violent and of course my big mouth didn't help. My D called 911 and H spent the night in jail and 1 month away from home. Terms for his come back was no more drinking, which he has done. I'm very proud of him. He has moved out a few times since then some beacause he wanted to some because I did. We always seemed to work things out for awhile, then we would start hashing out old problems, seemed like we could never slove a thing. We went to MC for a while until I quit because I didn't like what I was hearing about myself, this was about 4 yrs. ago. In the last 4 yrs we had ups and downs. It was not until fall that H was emoitional seeing OW that is married, he moved out again for 1 month, but came back. Was to have no contact with her. His terms were to sell the house and move away from my parents. I got scared and wanted to wait until D went to college(2yrs.) He was upset but seemed ok with that. Know after 7 months husband has moved out again and is living w/ his dad. He has told me not to call or see him, he is done with this marriage, told me we have no bussiness being married that we are to different. I feel he is right in some ways, I have let him down. He is not an open person where i am, he likes things quiet and I like to do things, he likes to stay up late and I like to go to bed early, stuff like that I guess. I know this may be for the best, but I love him and took vows for better or for worse. We don't do things socially or with friends he is a home body, where I go out and do things always pretaining to D events. I just want someone to love me for me and accept me for me. I'm having a hard time coming to terms with all this. In my heart this amy for for the best but I don't want to give up on my marriage and i'm afraid H has already. Know I'm have the house and all the bills that come with it. My income won't cover all the cost and I'm very afraid. I don't want to ask H for help as he told not call and that he wants to be free and clear from everything. I don't know what to do, if I sell the house then I should have just done that to make my husband happy and saved my marriage. I realize it is to late to save my marriage, i made promises and didn't follow through, so I don't blame the guy. I work during the school yr and then go to college at night, if I try to keep everything then i may have to quiet school and then of course D is going up and will be leaving the nest, so I ask myself why do I need the house. I'm trying to be strong and fight the urges of weakness but I feel myself not knowing what to do. I don't know if i'm coming or going.