Michele, I agree with Orchid, if she does not leave y'all alone, I would suggest taking this further with a RO and a call to her CO. Her gall is quite amazing.

Does your FIL know about the affair? Did he know they were having an affair when they fished together?

Why don't you have her emails blocked?

Susan

Be careful about this step. Her e-mails notify you of her actions and c/b used as proof if needed. They are hard to read and receive but if you and your H can handle it, don't block her e-mails until legal action has been secured. If you block them too early she may resort to another more dangerous tactic.

Remember to document every item. Keep a journal.

JMHO,
L.

Melody,
I had already found "the email" that had put all the red flags up, and I was watching phone calls at that time. Trying to get a handle of what was going on. It was my FIL who once the fishing was over, called my MIL who in turn called me and asked what was up because something is not right on that boat! I let the cat out of the bag and told them my suspicions. They stuck with me the whole way. And I was blessed to have them support me. I didn't tell my family at all. Don't think I will.

They know about it all and we're slowly moving as a family.

As far as the emails. I don't want to block them yet. I can handle them now that he has revealed his whole story to me. I read 8 pages of it last night with him. And we have constantly talked about it off and on all day. I like to see if she is trying something different, so that gives me a hint. All has been quiet today. Nothing new. Just waiting for her next move. I will document everything.

She tried calling him and his best fishing buddy 5 times yesterday. His fishing buddy wouldn't answer either. He's a good guy.

Tonight I'm going to meet H at the boat when he comes in. There is a good chance OW might show up there. Does anyone have any advice about what to do if this happens or is it something that we're going to have to play by ear? I don't think she's done yet. But she wouldn't know that I would come over there. I can just see both of us waiting for his boat. Me seeing her and her car and just sitting there in my car. She does not know my car and I don't know if she would recognize me. We met once. Anyway I'd rather not get ugly or even talk with her, but I might not have a choice.

I would ask for a security officer or police officer to be on-hand (witnesses really help) in the event that a "woman who has been stalking you and your husband" shows up to make more trouble - and file for a restraining order on the spot if she does.

There will be alot of people there. This place is packed on the weekends. He also has friends on the boat with him. I've prepared myself. We will get a RO if this happens. Thanks.

You know what, Michele? You go and meet your husband and hold your head high. I know your throat will be in your stomach if the OW shows up, but just remember this: YOU ARE HIS WIFE! She is the one who should be ashamed, not you. In fact, if she sees you waiting she is likely to tuck her tail between her legs and run.

I hope all goes well. Somehow, from what I've seen of you so far, you'll do well.

~ Snow

I went and she wasn't there. But she called his boat right before he pulled up. he has a boat phone that does not have caller ID (it's different than a regular cell phone). First thing she asked is if I was there. He said he had to get off the phone. He finally cut her off. She knew he hadn't fished yesterday, I think she's been to the boat. No more emails though. Just a call. This may take a little while. He's been really good. But I'm watching. Never know. Thanks Snow for posting.