Good job! Just smile sweetly and tell her you are so sorry she is upset! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Well it has been over a week and I have only heard from her once which was today. She only wanted to know if I had gotten the boat fixed. I reasoned “NO IT IS IN PRETTY BAD SHAPE. Even though it is not. She only calls when she wants something. So now I am getting where I don't even answer her phone calls. If she needs something bad enough she will leave a message. In a way I getting to a point where I just want to let her go vs. staying on this "roller Coaster Ride".

A month ago every thing was great and heading in the positive direction. THEN the only thing she said was that she was "being pulled in two directions" sadly enough she did not pick her family!!

I sent her a text message today stating my feelings.

Then with my 20th year class reunion coming up - I get a email from my high school love who I have not seen or heard from in 17 years. She got my email from the reunion thread.

What to do next?????

Well, I would leave your highschool love alone. That won't help your situation.

I agree. There is a reason why we did not get married. But it is still kinda of weird.

It like I text my WS today I STILL LOVE HER AND THINK ABOUT HER,

I also had three people who don't know each other to ask me if I was ready to move on yet. Or even at a point where I was second guessing my reaching out and trying (Plan A)..

Well here is an up date:

not much conversation. I bought her some ear rings and she insisted to tell me that I needed to stop because we were separated and well be getting a divorce in 06. SC law you have to wait a year. I simply told that it is okay that she will till look beautiful in those ear rings.. Later that Friday evening she called at 11.50 PM Of course I was asleep so I say it in the morning. I did not call her back I thought she would or if it was important leave a message. She has given up the kids and wants me to pick them up early - on a joint 50/50 custody and why should I not get pissed off. I MUST BE INSANE BECAUSE I PUT UP WITH IT> I have exposed her and that actually seemed to for the short term- we are now in out 6 mth and I don't know wether to retreat, throw in the towel, or give up. My heart is telling me to hang in there but my mind is saying to MOVE ON.

Is this similar to any one else saga.

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(((( Swade ))))

So sorry you are here. I am not one to give advice, at least anything serious.

This may not be what MB says, but I think you will know when you have had enough. It is probably then time to go to a different plan. Plan B ?

I know in my case, I sometimes feel better when I don't talk to WH. It hurts me and makes me feel bad to talk with him, plus it gives him a little time to wonder what the heck I am up to now !!

Detach yourself a little from her and the hurtful situation. Protect your heart and your sanity.

You are not alone, as much as it seems like alot of the time.

Carnation

Well it has been a while since I posted on MB so here is an update.

The situation is the same my WS is still running. She just got back from her trip to Las Vegas for her brothers Pool tournament which has been planned for six months. At this point the only thing that bothers me about her going was that our son started the first grade last week and she missed it. She missed his excitement of being in the first grade. She did not call the whole week to talk to him or anything. On Monday night he asked to call his nana and Papa, His Grammy but not his mommy. I was hoping that she would call so he could share his excitement with her but it never happened.

I know the next step is plan B but I don’t really feel like putting forth the effort any more. Yes!!!! I do still love her, for the wife I had for eight but I, her parents and her old friends do not know this person.

What next