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I posted over in Div...but if anyone wants to help me, I would appreciate it! Ed is just being impossible and I dont know what to do or how to handle it anymore! THREAD
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Dear Mf4m,
Sorry to hear about the ongoing babble along with abusive actions. Right now, IMHO you need to NOT give Ed ultimatums but learn how to give Ed the same info in such a way that his WS mind can absorb and digest it. He is vomiting garbage because that is what his mind is filled with. WS' will ALWAYS fight what the BS says. So don't say it. Let me know when you want those suggestions. I have a few but those WS' eyes are probably looking for our BS gems. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Here's one: Hi D23B, How r u doing? Figure you might be reading here. Seems like you have more time on your hands, eh? Hm..... thought you'd be busy with that new baby. Hope she is cute. Your boys must be growing up fast. They usually do. While that happens our lives just keep running along at such a fast pace. I know that my Xws (now H) truly regrets how he missed out on our sons first few years in school as a result of his A. Nothing can bring those times back. He now has to make the best of the time he has left with our son now. Sure hope you want t/d the same. U do don't you?
Ok D23b, gotta go.
take care, L.
Mom, Figure out that D23b will read this. Don't tell him about it. Watch his words and actions. He may figure this is a bait or trap of some sort. It isn't. I am not on a hunt to catch a WS. re: They don't run straight. LOL!!! He can see this is normal chit chat. If he can't handle that then well, he has taken a step down. Normal chit chat, ya know? Don't defend just say, Orchid wrote what she wanted to say w/o any input or coaching from you. If he has a problem with it, he can respond to Orchid himself.
Ok dear, have a nice day.
Aloha, L.
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Hi orchid! Thanks for your reply! I honestly dont think he is reading here...He doesn't know my screen name anymore and remember Ed IS Ed and I seriously doubt he would ever be able to keep his mouth shut if he came across one of my posts/threads...he would have to have HIS say in it...
I try to be civil with him, only for the kids sake! I WANT to be civil...BUT, he is incredible...his profanity and disrespectfulness is just uncalled for.
do you still have my number? When my cell phone was stolen, all my numbers were stolen with it...can you call me sometime?
I do try to babble back to him, but he just gets angrier...and more bitter...and the disrespect...OMG! It is just very hurtful, but I just roll it off...I have gotten to a point where I do not let him upset me nor do I get angry at him anymore...Eventually he will ahve to come to terms with his life and he will have to co parent these kids or lose them altogether...He really is just pitiful! Poor thing! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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