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WelL I am still in Plan B and it is ok, I guess... WH knows I have hired an atty as well. He thought we would "do it ourselves" ...translation "I didn't know you really meant it!" My biggest problem?? I am lonely!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I miss being held and loved, I miss being cared for. I miss what I had before my H turned into this alien dude! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> How do you get through this part...the saddness is mostly subsided, but the leftovers..the emptiness and the lonely heart...how do you get past this? I just feel this deep sense that I am no longer a part of something... I have not been truly "single" since 10th grade! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> This sucks!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
BW, 33 WH 36
Md 14.5 yrs
DD13, DS11, DD4
Tired of counting d-days, D proceeding 7/05
"Pride can break a man right down from iron.
Twist him 'round 'round and tatter up a soul
Handprint of God on the small of my back
my second chance, my second chance.
I'll bend a knee my friend, I'll bend a knee...
Lay It Down say it's all my fault, all my fault.
Say I believe, I believe lay it down.
This the hour of my healing, of my healing,
yeah my heart, my heart redeemed."
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Yes, it is very lonely at first. But it gets much, much better. You just have to get through the loneliness. Start doing things for yourself, and go out with friends. It sucks when you have always been a part of a team, but gets easier.
You are in good company - lots of lonely people here. I was really lonely for a long time, but I forced myself to begin living again. Now I'm happier than I ever was. You will get there too.
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ditto! It does get easier...I agree, do things for yourself...dont worry about the WH! once he sees you moving on, he will wonder why you are moving on...you will be happy again...i am so happy right now, and I am not even dating...I just love life...I love being single and taking care of my kids alone...
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Yes, most certainly do not feel alone in this situation. My wife is leaving me; she has no true reason for doing so other than that she is a quitter and refuses to give me a chance to prove myself now that I have completely changed - that and she's having an A.
I have felt absolutely lonely for the past 4 weeks, and with each day it gets a tad better. The pain will be here for a long time, but it will subside eventually. Knowing that she doesn't feel the lonliness in her own words "Being with you isn't that bad" while I was crying and suffering every moment without her makes it a little easier for me to not be around her - what kind of love is that?
Hang tough - if you need anything send me a PM, I'd love to give anyone here my support and prayers.
-A
Me 20
WW 20
Friends since: December 10, 1999
Began Dating: October 29, 2003
Married Feb 13, 2004
D-Day: July 28, 2005
Separated since: June 9, 2005
Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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Thx guys! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I know it gets easier, and not sure why now is so hard... I have been fighting this battle for a very long time now! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I have had weird dreams, about WH, about other men... guess I am in that transition and trying to see where I "fit" now... I have been part of a couple more than half my life and suddenly I am not and I am left feeling disconnected. I had a realization that I have not been truly single now since high school...OMG!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Ya think dating has changed since then??!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Yikes, I am so outta my element now...guess that is what I hate the most! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
BW, 33 WH 36
Md 14.5 yrs
DD13, DS11, DD4
Tired of counting d-days, D proceeding 7/05
"Pride can break a man right down from iron.
Twist him 'round 'round and tatter up a soul
Handprint of God on the small of my back
my second chance, my second chance.
I'll bend a knee my friend, I'll bend a knee...
Lay It Down say it's all my fault, all my fault.
Say I believe, I believe lay it down.
This the hour of my healing, of my healing,
yeah my heart, my heart redeemed."
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