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Hello, my name is TravellinMan, and I am getting divorced.

I have been posting in GQII, and as you can see in my signature line, I filed for divorce this past Wednesday. I have given my WW every opportunity to at least TRY to work on the M, and she will have none of it. She is a selfish, spoiled little girl...always been catered to by her family, and if the tuth be known...by me.

I never really thought it would come to this...I guess I underestimated just entirely how selfish she is. Her career is everything to her, I was just a means to an end for her.

It will be an ugly D, because she originally filed on me in CA, but never served me. Now that I filed on her in TX, she is trying to serve me the CA papers. So I will have to hire a CA attorney to contest the venue. I will spend whatever it takes to finish this fairly. Even if it becomes a Pyrrhic victory. She needs to face some consequences for once in her life.

TM

I'm sorry. She's in CA and you are living in TX? Definitely look out for you, but you know what a long drawn out process will do no one any good.

cyllanlisa -

Yes. To make a long story short, I moved us first to Philly, then to LA from our native Houston...all for her career - Podiatry. She is now a resident lin LA. She is a "walk away wife" - in that she asked me for a D in Nov, and proptly moved out. She got her own place in Jan, and the OM (married as well, PLUS has a 4 y/o DS) moved in with her - his W took the DS and moved home to San Francisico.

She has been living with him for about 4 months, and just recently called to tell me that she failed one of her board exams that she had to pass in order to return to TX to practice. So she is going to stay in LA and do another year of residency instead of coming back home and working on our M.

The OM, in theory, is moving to San Francisco to be a "co-parent" (WTF?) to his DS. I take everything she tells me with a grain of salt because she, as most WS's, has become an amazing liar.

I will win the contest of venue, because our licenses, car registration, heath insurance, auto insuarnce, voter registration, and home that she claimed a homestead exemption on - is all in TX. We temporarily lived out of state, but our residence was always here.

It is just going to cost me $ to fight her filing. I have to now pay 2 lawyers.

TM

Sorry to hear that TM!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I am here, too, though! Sucks, I know!! WH does not seem to want to stop his meandering ways!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> I have to do what is right for me and these kids!

I hired my atty last week and am hoping for a peaceful D... what an oxymoron, huh?!

Well since there are no kids I assume that you have assets to fight over? Seems like that would be the only reason for so much contesting going on.

TNT_RN -

Yes, we have assets. She bought a house here in TX before we were married, but I paid the mortgage for the last 6 years solo - she was in school and there fore had no income. She is now trying to say since the house was never transferred into both of our names, that I have little right to much of it. My lawyer thinks the judge will disagree...

She is contesting everything just because she is a vengeful control freak. She wants to be nasty.

Fun, eh?


TM

... so that is what passes for fun these days??!! I am staying home, then! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Yeah, my WH is going to get half the proceeds of the family home since we are in community property...doesn't matter that I paid nearly every payment the last 3 years on that house!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Not worth the fight though... still the principle of the matter gets to me!

My STBXMIL "repossessed" my car today...I told her she could have it back and try to sell it. I would have never had her sign a loan if I had known what was coming 6 months ago!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> She has been harassing the hell outta me since I fell behind after the A fallout and moving my home and three kids...etc...

Whatever! It is just steel and rubber and not worth the trouble. I am back to driving my 11 yr old Volvo that I never managed to sell...the Lord works in mysterious ways, eh?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> No worries, I will get back on my feet good as ever and get my OWN darned car! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

TNT_RN

I am sorry to hear about your STBXMIL...

Thankfully, my MIL doesn't seem like she will be as unfair to me. Although I have been fairly pi$$ed at her due to her constant defending of her daughter, she says she will be completely fair with us financially. She and my (now deceased) FIL, my BIL and his wife, and myself and my WW all went in on some property together - although the loan and title are only in my MIL's name. So potentially she could try to say I have no interest in the land...although I have cancelled checks to prove otherwise. I don't think it will get that nasty.

Recently, I talked for a while with my BIL for the first time since I moved back to TX. I asked him if his sister has become a bad person...he responded by saying she is just being who she always has been...kinda a slam - no? He also agreed that I catered to her as best I could - maybe too much...

Oh and if it makes you feel any better, I drive a Toyota pickup that is 13 years old and has 197,000 miles on it...my WW got the new car, of course. She drives a '02 (last model year) Pontiac Trans Am convertible - with the ram air package - 325 horsepower...

I spoiled the b****, and look where it got me.


TM