MY STBX has been spending a lot of time with his cousin's son who is her visiting from AZ and he's only 14. He's a good kid and has gone through a lot with his own parents. Anyway.....I got an instant message from him tonight and he wanted to know why I wouldn't let my son go over to OW's house. As we were chatting I could tell his words sounded so much like my STBX. I stayed calm and kept talking like I would a 14 year old child. I finally told him that he didn't need to worry about such grown up stuff and he should just be a kid and be happy. He kept on asking. As soon as we finished chatting my STBX called to talk to our son. I'm really bothered that my STBX has filled this poor kids head with such garbage and also that my STBX would use him. What can I do???????????

Tree,

I hate to be Capt. Obvious but...

You think you might have been talking to your STBX?

I know my EX posed as my daughter once on AIM....it was sweet....

Yes....I think it was him on some of it.
I printed the whole thing out so that I could read it again and now I definitely think it was him. He's lost it!!!!!!!

TR,

If the WS has resorted to sending you subliminal messages via children, then here's my 2 cents:

1. Notify your nephew's parents what the WS is doing.

2. Let the child know that the OW is not a safe person and since he really has not been told the entire story or truth it isn't safe for him to draw any conclusions until he gets all the facts. Then let this child know that his 'uncle' has been making up stories for quite a while. Then drop it. No more info.

3. Make sure his parents and grandparents get the real story.

You are not involving the child. The child is already involved. You are preventing the WS from using the child to get to you. You can't protect the child other than to warn his parents the child is being 'used' by a wacko relative. That this 'relative' is introducing their child to 'strange women'. Then leave it in their hands as to how they choose to handle their child. If the choose to leave their child in such an unsafe environment, you can't be blamed and it is no longer your problem. Should anything bad arise, it isn't your fault. It is sad that another innocent child has t/b hurt. As you can see a WS is a very selfish and hurtful creature.

L.

Good ideas Orchid!
I will do that! I can't say they will listen to me but I can surely try. The child's grandmother is my MIL sister and her son did the same thing as my STBX. I think the child lives with the grandparents. I guess I can only do what I can.
It makes me sick to my stomach that my STBX is lowering himself like this. He's tuly lost it. I really don't know how much more I can take.
I'm leaving for vacation with my family on July 7th. I can hardly wait. I need time to have some peace and some fun!!!!