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It seems like an appearance/advertising not matching the product issue to me.
No, I don't think it makes you a bad person..yes I do think it is relevent.
Here is what you know..
Your wife has a history, sexually..it is something that she has discarded in favor of a different lifestyle.
She was honest when you asked her.
For me..personally..I would be more interested to discuss the hows and whys both of her previous promiscuity and her later decision to alter that behavior..than the whos and whats..'cause really..there are only so many ways to have sex..she has probably explored most of them..not with you as a first experience..and you are in the same boat.
If you want to marry a virgin..there is nothing wrong with that. However..she is not and never will be a virgin ever again. She is experienced sexually..you will have to deal with that..or end the relationship.
If there is some middle ground boundary that can not be crossed wihtout you having a recoil reaction..you are just going to have to unearth it so that you will both know what it is.
Keep in mind..that the way that she looks and acts today..is probably different than it was during that time.
I wonder if part of this may have to do with your perceptions of the scandalous women that you yourself slept with..that they might be real also? Flesh and blood with feelings and a future that may include marriage and respectable behavior?
Have you historically sorted women into categories like this? It sounds like you have..and it sounds like you are more than a little bothered that she was in the *wrong* one for a period of time.
I hope you respond..I'm very interested in your thoughts about this.
Last edited by Nokomis; 07/10/06 11:55 PM.
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I believe I addressed certain words that should not be used in this thread previously. Please see Page 1.
On the next problem, I'm locking this thread.
All,
I do not want to interfere with the subject matter being discussed on this thread. While discussing this topic, do not use derogatory terms for people. If you have any doubt as to the terms to which I am referring, you can view the edits I made above.
Regards,
Nokomis
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