Ok i am lost. i dotn know how to act. Thiings have been getting great between me and my H . I actually started thinking last week how were headed in the right direction etc. Well he works a new scheadule at work (mon-fri) at work and it leaves a lot less time at work for him to be doing nothing. I have let go of a lot of my suspiousins and have just felt good about us. things had been good for a about 5 weeks or so. Then last week all the drama about him working over time. ( i posted about how he kept agreeing to work more in th meantime letting down me and the kids and stuff) I also work and it is not important for him to work overtime for us to get by. he just couldnt quit and have NO income. but any way i know i LB a couple times that weekend and he did too. But now ifeel weve tak en 6 steps back!


he is back DOWN . its like he comes in doesnt come up and kiss me. when i reach out to hold his hand he barlye holds it he e just seems distant doesnt cuddle or try SF at night etc. now i dont think this has anything to do w. OW> i think this has to do with him working so much , hes tired, fustrated, i lbed and hes probably getting back at me or something.. id otn know . when i ask him he says nothign is wrong. but i can tell its extreme difference.

so i guess my question is do i just go along for the ride and hope to ride it out or do i go above and beyond to be sweet etc?? any suggestions

Big red flags for me. I think it does have something to do with the OW. He may not be working all of the OT that he claims he is. Have you checked that out?

Yes i'm almost 100 percent positive there is nothing to do with OW> he has been at work every second that he says ( i am in contact with him all the time, and i see his paycheck with the hours etc) . if he was in contact with the OW it would be a lot less on his new sheadule. and this did NOT start wtih his scheadule changing. it started when i complained about him dissapointing our DD. i did LB. i have apologized but since then he has been distant.