I have been in a relationship with my H for 5 years and married for all of 9 months. The issue is that we have become two different people with different priorities. I am tired of the conflict that occurs each day and the lack of communication that seems to grow worse and worse.

I know that attempts to resolve the conflict that we are having are frustrating, tiring and getting old. My H has moved out and I am relieved, yet confused whether this is the final straw with him. Where I find my weakness is upholding to the fact that I do not want him back and do not want to continue with the relationship. Somehow, someway, he ends up back in my life.

I do not want to go through the entire story; I want to save that for the book that I may someday write! The core of the issue is that I and our son wait for him every night to eat dinner, spend time together or to do whatever together as a family. My expectation is that we each need to be individuals and have our "own" time, but some time together is healthy to maintain a working relationship and have the appearance of a functioning family. However, conveniently he is able to fill his schedule each day until 9-10pm each day with a visit to his favorite choices of bars. I see myself as a smart woman with a beautiful child and a great career that has so much to offer...except the person that I offer myself wants to be his own person and not part of the family that we have started.

I am looking for any words of wisdom to carry me through the conflict that I have in front of me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.