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what is considered appropriate communication with OW during planB???

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Sorry, I dont know your story.. but...

Are you the WS or the BW ?

No matter what title-- any adult knows what is considered appropriate, dont we?

If you are looking for a definition of it then I think there may be some question in your mind-- or maybe someone is looking to rationalize an inappropriate exchange.

If it is about an OC- then pretend the conversation is between a daycare worker and you (or your WS)... and you dont know the worker other than exchanges about the BABY...then the daycare worker is getting personal or talking about a relationship. THEN you'd know this is something you should not talk about- it would strike you as ood, right? Well, same goes for xow and xmm-- if there is NO CONTACT other than about OC, then any other conversation should be immediately redirected to BABY/CHILD, period!

Does that answer ? LOL !

And, did something happen that you can share specifically so it can be picked apart, analyzed, spit out again, ETC. ? HA !


NO LONGER "BW"! I am "RD" - RESURRECTED DIVA ! 33 years young-LIVING LIFE AGAIN WITH OR WITHOUT MY HUSBAND DARNIT! Married 5 years-3 children 15, 12 & 10 Dday- July 03 / OC- born January 04 Reconciling? We WERE but I woke up one day and didn't love him anymore...
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I guess since you're posting here, there is an OC involved. If this is the case, I would consider appropriate conversation with OW to ONLY be when neccesary concerning OC. If OW is pregnant, then there isn't much to discuss. In my case we paid for 1/2 of medical expenses, so there was conversation about that and only that, and it was done in front of me BS via telephone. Plan B means no contact, so that's what I would consider appropriate. If OW can't stick to the topic then NC period until OC is born and legal means have been established.


WS: 37 BS: 36 "highschool sweethearts" married 8/98 ds: 12/96 dd: 11/99 ds: 5/02 separated 4/04 A summer '04 D-Day: 9/8/2004 recovery begins 10/04 moves back in 11/04 OC born (girl) 4/05 (Legal C 8/05) "Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives me something to do, but it gets me nowhere."
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I was just reading your other post ... Did you give your H a Plan B letter?
Plan B is to remove yourself from that situation.

As much as it hurts, protect your children first. Asking for CS is the right decision.

Why would you want to have any type of communication with OW Plan B or not?


me-34
xH-38
DD 10/03
D-day 11/03 (cellphone)
Talked-Day 01/04
H left-02/04
Divorce-05/04
xH left -false recovery 1 week- 08/04 -told about OC
OC-07/04
xH left -false recovery 6 weeks- 12/01/04
12/02/04 DESTRUCTION OF MILY MUST END
1/17/05 - Started dating
11/05 - CS and visitation established at Court
02/28/06 - xH moves back after 2 yrs!
10/16/07 - asked xH to leave - he's still in a relationship with OW

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