Maybe some Aussies or the Europeans are up, eh? It's just after 4 a.m. here in the good ole midwestern USA... and I woke up and can't get back to sleep.

Today is three years since the last dday. Think that has anything to do with anything?

~ Snow

[color:"green"] Snowbelle I'm up.
Living in Germany but I'm really from Nebraska. You ok? [/color]

I'm in Asia.. it's just only nearly evening here.

~A

Yeah, I'm OK RHM. Just having some unforeseen reaction to the third anniversary of the last dday I guess. Woke up, realized the day, and couldn't go back to sleep.

Wierd, isn't it? I'm in the US, RHM is in Europe and Ashley is in Asia. Yet the same tragedy has befallen us all. Infidelity knows no boundaries and healing comes from many sources, some from afar.

~ Snow

[color:"green"] Glad you can rebound. I did from her first in 87 but this one in 04-05 was to much. So whatcha eating? The kids lucky charms? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> You could always put whip cream in his shoes then tell him you were having a bad night and make up in the morning. LOL [/color]

Whipped cream in the shoes? What a waste of a perfectly good food! I was thinking more along the lines of your signature.... he he he.

~ Snow

Sorry about that second one, RHM. Really sucks, doesn't it? Sometimes I wonder why I didn't go when the going was good, but most times I'm glad I stuck it out. Are you sure there's no hope for you two?

~ Snow

[color:"green"] Ya like that. I got it from a song Dobie posted on Idiotville. That is where I live at times. Idiotville seems to suit me well. Early on in my marriage before the first affair my wife and I had a whip cream fight in the house. It took forever to clean everything. Sure was fun though. [/color]

you two are strong.. I don't even know how I do get up everyday after the D-Day of WH's A! I'm already just abt giving up coz it's easier, ya know?

~A

[color:"green"]She want's it to work but I can't do it anymore. I don't think I will be able to treat hear as well as I have and she will do this again. I just lost my love for her through the Plan A process. To many lies. Glad you like it most the time. Have you thought about waking him to share in this time of pain or would you rather it not be him? I guess I understand both though process. [/color]

LOL!!! What a memory. Reminds me of the time I was sitting at my husband's feet, looking up at him and eating chocolate pudding. He said something that made me laugh and the stunned look on his face with the pudding I'd just spit all over it was priceless.

Can't throw out all of the good with the bad, I guess. I've worked pretty hard at trying to keep things in perspective. Helps to keep my thought processes even when I have a bad day. Thanks for reminding me of that pudding moment. LOL!

~ Snow

I know what you mean about the lies, RHM. Affair no. 2 ended on dday. Don't think I would have stuck around if it hadn't.

As for waking him to share this moment? Naw. Probably should. Can't for some reason. It feels like water under the bridge but, really, I think I just don't want to stir the pot. I mean, what would I say? "FWH I've woken you at this awful hour just to tell you that it's been three years since you last screwed around and I just wanted you to know I am not sleeping. Happy Anniversary!"

~ Snow

[color:"green"] So did he get mad or laugh when you got him with the pudding? We use to play around and i would get peanut butter and put it on her face then hold her down and call the dog. Sounds mean but we laughed about it. I owe that to my 19 yo son for picking on his 6 yo brother while I've been gone. I will hold him down and let the 6 yo put on the peanut butter and call the dog. LOL [/color]

It only seems easier to give up, Ashley. When I thought about what it would mean to actually divorce... in terms of human emotion shared between the two of us and each of our kids... it was overwhelming. My instinct was that divorce wouldn't solve the problems and, after three years, I believe we were right to hang in there.

~ Snow

He laughed when he could finally move. I believe I peed my pants, actually!! I love the peanut butter trick. I'll have to try that one out someday. But I don't know if our dog is a peanut-butter kind of lass....

~ Snow

I know what you mean about the lies, RHM. Affair no. 2 ended on dday. Don't think I would have stuck around if it hadn't.

As for waking him to share this moment? Naw. Probably should. Can't for some reason. It feels like water under the bridge but, really, I think I just don't want to stir the pot. I mean, what would I say? "FWH I've woken you at this awful hour just to tell you that it's been three years since you last screwed around and I just wanted you to know I am not sleeping. Happy Anniversary!"

~ Snow [/quote]
[color:"green"]I even told her at one time I would take her back If she admited it and stoped. Oh well.

I understand as well as I understand he could hug you and appoligize again. It never ends for you and if he loves you he should be willing to suffer through that to help you. Would it help to turn this day into a aniversary of a new marriage and do something every year? or maybe the day after. Tomorrow go on a speacial date. [/color]

So is your WW still cheating? That would be it for me, too. But sometimes you just have to hang in there and see what happens. I don't blame you for wanting to end it here and now, though. Don't blame you at all.

If I woke my husband, yes, he would hug me and apologize for the 3,587th time. He's good that way. He'd even hug me and probably rub my back (hey, this is sounding better all the time!!!). But I don't know... just can't see disturbing his sleep. Perhaps we'll talk later today. Besides, we have one of the kids sleeping on a mat on our bedroom floor (the only place we have air conditioning in our house and it's been hotter than hades the last week). I certainly don't want to wake him up...

I think I'll try to catch an hour of sleep before I have to get up and face the day. It's now 5:14 a.m. here. Thanks for chatting, RHM. I wish you peace. I'll check back on you tomorrow. Maybe I'll see you in Idiotville.

~ Snow

[color:"green"] No, she's not cheating any more and everyone in the church knows. We all attended the same church. Thats old news anyhow. Hope You get some sleep and have a good day. Don't forget to hug the kid(s) and tel them how much you love them. [/color]

Hi Snow ( and all !) I'm in the UK, so its not an ungodly hour for me !

Oddly its anniversary time for me to. D-day was 22nd July last year , but Squid was deep in her PA this time last year. All the shopping, school commitments and stuff that were actually her screwing OM in a seedy motel all stand up in front of me when I let them.

But Squid is a very different person now. I'll allow myself SOME sadness but not too much <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hi Bob!! You know, one thing I have learned in these three years is that you really do, at some point, have to stand up against your own thoughts. About the year mark is where I began saying to myself (even out loud sometimes), "Just STOP." It would break a downward cycle of thoughts just as you describe, thoughts that were heading nowhere and really didn't describe Mr. Snow in the present.

The mind is a tricky thing, eh?

The day has been uneventful. When I logged off early this a.m. the birds were chirping and I just laid down on the couch in the living room and fell asleep. FWH woke me and asked me what I was doing out there, and I told him. And ya know what? He gave me that back rub that RHM talked about -- and I didn't even have to ask!

Now, if that kid weren't lying on the floor in our bedroom, who knows what might have transpired? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Guess I'll go home now and see what's in the cupboard for dinner. Maybe watch some tube with the fam and make it an early night. I am tired, that is for sure!

~ Snow