Got a phone call from OWH today. This was the first time he called me. He asked me how was I doing, what was happening with me my WH? Told him I'm surviving and that we are going to go to MC. I asked the same to him.

He tells me that he and OW are Catholic and that with the proof I gave him of the A, he can get a D from her now and remarry in the church. I'm not that familiar with it, so I just go along with what he tells me. He also informs me there is another woman in his life. Apparently, there has been for a while. (which explains the marital problems they were having)

Anwyay, he tells me OW has no interest in my WH at this point because of the A and WH's past. She is dealing with guilt, the wrath of her family and her church/faith. BUT, he says she is VERY angry at me for "being the cause of it all" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> and has told "a friend of a friend" that she plans on breaking us up as revenge. (did you get all that?)

What the heck am I supposed to do with this? It is obvious that she is using him and leading him on and he's still taking the bait. While I know they don't see each other outside of work, I do know she continues to call him after hours practically daily.

Is your H part of a revenge A? It sounds like she's already done her bit at trying to break your marriage up. Where are you and your H at in the scheme of things? Are you hostile? talking? In recovery? Would he have NC if OW stopped calling him? What is the fog level?

Hard to give advice when I don't know your story.

My story quickly explained in my first post.

Right now, WH has told me A is over, but has not written NC letter. He works with OW who is in same dept.

WH is living with his mother at his choice. WH and I have agreed to start MC and first session is tomorrow. WH is making a small effort. Not sure it's real though. WH says he doesn't love me anymore.

I haven't asked him about NC if OW stopped calling him. Fog level: limited visibilty.