My wife and I have just divorced-1 week ago.15 years together.She got pregnant by OM during affair. About 6 months after separation he moved in to the house. She told me that she is regretting breaking up our home and she realizes all the good times we had. So Know she realizes that she is consantently unhappy and is really turning to God for guidence and has put her boyfriend on the couch and she sleeps with the baby in the bedroom. She says she feels she can not get close to God with him sleeping with her in the bed let alone have sex..QUESTION-----She is a christian and he is not..Can God bless something like this or will he. What if OM man gets saved will it be blessed.. NOt a good sign anyway if he is on couch lsu_la@yahoo.com

Relationships that have occurred via an affair rarely last - and I think that your ex's is well on its way to ending - JMO. The stats are only 3% of those relationships last more than a couple of years. My ex's lasted 1 year. I didn't realize at the time it was doomed from the start. I also knew if she had any brains in her head, she wouldn't put up with his controlling behaviour.

Eventually the unfaithful spouse starts to come out of their fog and sees what they've done, and what they've lost. The passionate, suductive affair becomes day to day life and changes the dynamic between the two, further eroding the relationship. An affair is a fantasy - neither are putting the day to day demands on each other that comes with marriage and a real relationship; it is all new love and romance. Then one day they come face to face with the REAL person and all their bad points, and think, "I left my marriage for HIM/HER???"

It appears that she may be testing the water to see if you would be receptive to her return. I might be wrong about that, but it is curious that she is telling you all of those things, especially about the boyfriend and their sleeping arrangements. I guess time will tell what her intentions are.

Regarding God, I can't believe S/He would ever bless the relationship of a couple formed out of adultery, no matter if the people converted to Christianity or not. He might bless them individually, but never the relationship. JMHO. Maybe that's another reason why so very few succeed.

Thats what I was thinking. If she ended up with someone else thats is fine but not him especially since he was a so called friend

Swimming, I agree with those above. A caring loving God will bless and keep the people especially those that can't defend themselves, but I don't think that a relationship/union born from adultery is sacred in H/er eyes.

God does not bless sin. I look at someone like David, whose life was blessed, yet filled with sin. He sinned with Bathsheba, and paid a consequence with the death of his child for that sin. Yet their child Solomon was blessed and through him was the linage of Christ.

I think with your wife she is searching and feeling the weight of her actions. She may even be wondering as suggested if there is the possibility you would take her back. The question is, what would want to do? Would you want her back? To take her back would be extending an extreme amount of grace.

yes I probaly would because I see the person she really is and the person she wants to be. she hates what she does and does not know why.If she ever got to roots of her problems and baggage, the person that would end up with her would be a very lucky person. But will move on with my life and if that day comes or have not found anyone will have to give consideration with alot of wisdom. Not standing around waiting though

I have to agree that God would not bless a relationship based on an affair. I do beleive that we can all be fogiven for any sins we may have. It was very encouraging to hear only 3% of affairs ever last. My ex thinks he was blessed by God with his new woman, and also beleives he walked beside God in a past life, and I was sent to another village to learn some lessons. I can't wait to see exacly what happens to his new relationship.

my satisfaction is knowing they will not make it. I laugh about it.. yall confirmed what i was thinking

Well, getting close is difficult in the presence of continual sin.

let's see, sexual immorality,adultery, and let's not forget being unequally yoked to an unbeliever if she ties the know with this guy.

I would submit that she's starting off with some healthy strikes against her.

However, she's quite the mission field.