So we have been having contact with the OC and so far things have been going great. OW was being cooperative, my H would pick OC up and then take OC home. Life was sort of semi-normal, until Friday, OW called my H while I was at work could he watch OC he said yes, OW called back a few minutes later and said never mind. This was at about 4 in the afternoon. Then she called at like 7:30 and said can I drop her off now, this was for the night, H said yes but he was pissed that all of a sudden she just wanted to dump the baby because she wanted to go to a campfire party. But anyway we kept the baby overnight. OW dropped child off at our house. So then we were to have the child overnight again on Sunday. So when H called to see if we can pick her up early OW freaked....saying no she was going to a baseball game and why couldn't she just drop her off at our house and she didn't care if he was trying to spare my feelings about this whole thing blah blah blah. My husband said whatever you can drop her off its not about Her (me) feelings its about what we agreed to..So anyway at 4pm on Sunday she dropped OC off at our house, I stayed upstairs with our older son. The diaper bag, wasn't packed, we ran out of formula, had only 3 diapers left, no pajamas, no outfit for the next day. It infuriates me thinking that this is how she takes care of my H daughter, now we had forumula at our house and clothes and stuff but OW doesn't know that, how could she just drop her off with nothing. And then she had a photo album with her and the baby in it. I didnt' look because I have never seen OW and am not ready to. All I know is that right at this time I hate her. I think she is doing all of this to get in my face. And I think that she is trying to get my husband back. She doesn't want things to get ugly. I won't stand for her using this child as a weapon. Any way thanks for listening to me, I know I didn't say much of anything that made sense, but it helped to get it all out. Thanks again.

LA

I don't know how you could not look at the photo album. My curiousity is going to be the death of me I think! I am constantly asking H questions (making the situations worse). It's like I have to know every little detail and I'm driving myself (and H nuts). OK, I know he deserves it.

How old it OC?

I can't stand people that use the baby as a pawn either. OW still does. It sounds like your H is trying to stand up to her which is good. Sooner or later she has to get tired of the games.

I just didn't want to look at the photo album, I didn't want to ruin my day more than it already was. OC is only 2 months old and she is just a little peanut. She is so precious and too know that the OW is using her like weapon makes me sick. Yes H is trying to stand up to her. But if she keeps this crap up we will go to court and we will get custody. Again thanks for listening.

HI LA, as for seeing OW, I made that initiation. I HAD to know so that I could get through that part of things. OW was SO not what i was expecting, believe me.

They do use the kids, don't ask me why. It's all about what's convenient for THEM. Our children are going to meet OC today. H will pick her up and drop her off. On thursday she will be here again. H will pick her up and OW is supposed to pick her up from our house. I don't know how I feel about my children meeting her and am not sure how I will act. I know that it has to happen eventually anyway, so, so be it. I'm sure the kids will be nice to her and all and probablt ask her lots of questions about Oc, they are too young to understand the nature of this whole situation.

Don't give in to her little games and YES, let's pray that they all (OW) grow up sometime! HUGS

2MONTHS OLD!
omg I would never leave my baby overnight anywhere at 2months.

she is selfish and doesnt deserve to have a baby at all... Actually this is all good for you and husband to get custody, document this and video if you have it. The guidelines would not even allow any father to take a child overnight at 2months old. If custody is what you want then she is giving you all the ammo you need to get it.... the unsupplied diaper bag.... dumping the child off at 7:30pm till next day without notice... you prob better get your list together for the lawyer lol .

I don't mind having her overnight, I enjoy her. We have had her overnight 3 times so far and at least twice a week for a few hours at a time since she was 4 weeks old. So in the month that we have had active contact we have kept her 3 times over night. I guess what upsets me the most is that she doesn't know me at all and while she had an A with my H she barely knows him so basically she is leaving her newborn child with perfect stranges. I have 2 children with my H and can't imagine having done the things that she is doing. And why do they use the baby as a weapon. I mean its a baby, They the OW helped created the situation that they are in not the OC and she the OW needs to grow up and deal with it, IF she doesn't want to be a full time mother, my H and I will gladly raise this child. I just Hate her more and more sometimes.