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I don't know what to do. Digging through disks I was looking for some of my old poetry and there I found {after putting it in the computer} a whole spew of a collection of child pornography pictures. The children in the pictures were as young as 4 years old!!!!!!! I have just started a new family with my husband {1 year of marriage} and my three month old daughter. I am so upset I cannot see straight and I don't even see how I can fix this.... it's like my husband has some secret life. He comes home in five hours and I don't know what to do... I am so sickened by him it is not even comprhendable... I want to rip him to shreds. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!

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I would think you should go visit the police dept first before you confront him.


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Call the police immediately.


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They are pics he has downloaded off the internet... they are not pictures he has taken.

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They are pics he has downloaded off the internet... they are not pictures he has taken.
Call the police. Then protect your child. Do you have any other children that he has been around?


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This is my first child... god... I don't know what to do... I don't want to call the police on him.

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Doesn't matter. Call the police.


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Maybe this is just me - and I KNOW that child porn is wrong - but wouldn't you say calling the police on her husband is a tad harsh?


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Put the disk in a safe place so he can't destroy your evidence. You professional help with this more than anyone here can help you with.


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Unless of course there are other reasons he has these pictures....then yeah, call the police <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

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My dear, you absolutely must call the police.


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other reasons????????

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Fox, there is absolutely no reason that is even remotely good for downloading and saving child porn pics to disk


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And chaster, under no circumstances are you to leave your child alone with this man for any reason ever from this point forward. I hope you are calling the police.


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i guess there aren't really any other reasons....i don't know, I just think that calling the police on someone who hasn't really done anything other than look at pictures is kind of harsh.

I do realize that child porn is really sick, and hearing about it is pretty messed up - but I dunno, it just seems like putting anyone in jail for merely looking at something seems like a really harsh penalty to me. I realize there are probably other ramifications behind this but, in all honesty, its not like he's gone out and molested anyone. Get him to a shrink? Yeah...

Call the police and have him sent to jail? That's your call - I don't know the guy.


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Sorry I was trying to be subtle and making the point of the crime earlier. This is a public forum and the fact child porn has been mentioned makes it now open for someone to investigate.

I think the suggestion to call the police is valid. I would call them and turn over the disks and say they are your husbands, not sure how the information got there. Call your husband, let him know after the police leave and that gives him time to think about calling a lawyer. I wouldn't say much more.


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i am so scared.

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Chaster, I've just sent an email to Topie, an old MB member who dealt with the same issue.

Hoping she shows up.

Please call the police.


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I agree. You should call the police.

As adults we MUST PROTECT INNOCENT CHILDREN!


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I am just so scared... can't I just hide the disks and talkto him about it?????

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