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He may have the disks... but he would NEVER lie to me...
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Well, its nice to know that I'm not alone here...to an extent.
Ripping apart someone's life based on assumption is extremely rash. Like I said - just because someone watches a movie of a murder doesn't make them a murderer. Unfortunately there's a human quality we have called "Curiousity" lurking in the dark here.
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You say he would never lie, but then he hid this from you?
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Yes, he has never shown me them... but I have never found them either. He will not lie to me.
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Fox, no disrespect intended but no NORMAL person is even remotely curious about childpornography. The only naked children I would want to see are my own kiddos when I change their diapers or give them a bath.
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So what exactly do those of you who think its "too harsh" think shoudl happen?
Caster will confront, he'll deny. Has no one learned ANYTHING about addictions while reading here?
Then Caster can go along in denial, thinking that she is building a marriage with a man who is not only not capable of such, but may harm her child or others.
Exactly what possible BENIGN explanation can ANY of you come up with for pictures saved to disk??????
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Exactly what possible BENIGN explanation can ANY of you come up with for pictures saved to disk?????? NONE! But she has to make her own decision. I pray it will be the right one.
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I am so torn. Why? Why? Why?
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Not trying to be argumentive here, but child porn crosses lines in a big way. To save naked pictures of 4 year olds on to disc goes beyond curiosity. And the mere fact he has possessin of them is very illegal. There simply is no plausible excuse for that it would seem to me. But yes, she does need to confront him before going to the law.
just my opinion, of course.
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Let me say this, if he downloaded from a site that is being monitored by the FBI, then they will eventually show up at your door one day looking for those disks. When they do, they don't have a lot of mercy. They take the computers from office and home and run diagnostics looking for any evidence of porn on them. If they find any, then they arrest whoever uses those computers.
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Romans 7:24 Wretched man that I am! Who will set me free from the body of this death? 25 Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, on the one hand I myself with my mind am serving the law of God, but on the other, with my flesh the law of sin.
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Well... he is 32... I am 20... I just thought he liked younger women...but I had no idea.
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lol, I never said that it wasn't wrong - its pretty much the nastiest thing imaginable I can think of; but for everything there are explanations. Even if they are stupid ones. I just think calling the police on the grounds that "he might molest someone's kid" is a tad harsh.
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....oh boy..... ...call the police <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
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unless of course this is a joke thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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I am dead serious... I would not post something like this. Why would people joke anout something like that?
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Only because i can think of a number of guys in college who would be dumb enough to dare their friends to download crap like that - i.e. frats, etc. Ugh, college men are so incredibly irritating. Especially at my school - I can't wait to graduate.
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You'd be surprised what people would post on a forum just to get attention or a raise out of people..
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Chaster, call the police and turn over the computer and discs to the police.
Anything you do from now on is not only enabling (you will be standing in the way of your husband getting help, and allowing him tocontinue ) but you will also be an accessory.
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