Well,
Old timer/permanent lurker..now time for me to chime in as the STXW stole my children to California and informed me she filed. Nothing in the mail yet but I did get my 16yo back. I used to hang on the pregnancy board. in 98 my wife had an affair and I chose to keep the family together..I failed. I tried using everyones experiences and methods to keep the marriage intact. I followed the MB rules. Now I am Plan B with her since last Tuesday. Have not spoken a word to her and do not plan on it unles it involves the children.. She had a master plan executed it for years and it finally came to fuition. I am the consumate chump, feel like. Allot of my pain over the years was for nothing now, and now she is holding my fourteen year old so she can get $ and have a babysitter for the OM twins. I really could use some advice. I already am on Wellbutrin and the doc got me xanax so I could sleep. Look for what I have endured under my name.
HumbleOne..

now just feel like a dumbleone

Humble One, I'm so sorry. I'll remember you in my prayers for what it's worth. I'm not quite sure how God will feel if I prayed for what I'd really like: Your wife to get struck by lightening and the children sent back to you.

So, how's it been until she bolted to CA?

For some reason I always assumed you were on the east coast. Surely your STBX is not moving them clear across the country! GRRRRR.

Advice?? Get a killer lawyer. Did you keep the letters you found?

HO, the pain won't be for nought. All that pain will have diminished your love her for. You haven't failed. You just set a task which was impossible to do single handedly. I also wouldn't stress over the 14 year old. Many times the judge will take the desires of the older children into consideration. Now, what about the twins? Surely, they don't know that OM is their bio dad.

As for the stress, all I can tell you, you already know. Exercise, stay away from alcohol, avoid sugary things, stay in contact with people.

Bumping.

HO<

I am sorry for your pain! Many have given you wonderful advice, follow it!!!

Pray for yourself and for your children, pray for what God's will is to be in your life.

Do not beat yourself up over what your STBXW has chosen to do that was a choice that she made, yes you hoped for seomething else, but it is her choice that you and the kids will have to live with.

Be the bestest dad that you can be, the kids will know that you did the best for them and probably put yourself thru misery trying to do that for them, someday they will appreciate it, probably not for another 10 years though!!! Something to look forward to!

I will keep you imn my thoughts and prayers.

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