Our son was visiting for a week

and I can say...

the recent healing has been unbelievable!

In God's time .....

Pep,

I don't know your whole story, but was this visit something a WW would need to hear about? My WW thinks what she is doing has no effect on our DS21 and DD30. Wanna bet?

Her actions affect more than just me, but in her self centered little world she can't see that. Am I the one to tell her?

No hurts

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our son had problems unrelated to my H's A ...

I like reading things like this. It warms my heart - so much better than reading the paper.

Honest (hard) work does much for boys/men. We need it to think well of ourselves. I suspect that doing well in his class, and getting out on his own and actually making it work are very good for him.

I see also that he survived the shock of finding out that the world didn't revolve around him. LOL, you did good, even if it was hard for you.

Thanks so much for the update. Not sure why things come to my mind like they do, but I often wonder about him, and hope he does well.

Thanks for all the help you give, it's real, even if you wonder sometimes.

SS

Yes ... he talks of leaving your state ... but, I think he's there for awhile.

He was unbelievably gentle and loving .... and not one ounce manipulative.... I was amazed!

"Not one ounce".......... even better than I thought.

Once when interviewed by church leader, I was asked if there were any problems in my relationships with my family members.

I replied that I had wanted to kill my kids (sons)sometimes, but that I had never actually killed any of them yet.

He said I sounded normal.

(I don't mean to make light of child abuse issues, and he was in our home often enough to know there were none, just so you know.)

Now they are a joy to us, and we have three Grandchildren, which by the way are lots funner than kids, because you can send them home at night for their parents to deal with.

My sons have both my strengths, and my weaknesses, so I am still working on them, but it's different somehow now. I like it. Once (after all my siblings and I were married) I asked my dad if he was happy now that we were all married, happy, and somewhat successful. He told me that he worried about us still, and would continue to worry until he died, and would probably worry after he died too. I am beginnig to understand.

I think you have some very happy times ahead of you - you can count on it.

SS