Its been awhile since I have posted here. But I just have been having a bad day.

This morning I got curious & went online to do a little web searching. I thought, let me see if there is anything out there. So I went online, to make a long story short, and found that my xWW(?) name was in a county public record data base.

I put a ? after xWW, because I was never fully sure that she was wayward. I suppose all the signs were there...but I was in denial.

After viewing the record I was saddened. It was a record dated 2 months after the D. Which btw I instigated due to her wanting a separation & NC. We were separated for 2 months before I filed.

Anyway it had her name & the name of the guy I long suspected as the OM. He was a guy she met in her night class a year ealier.

The record was for a property mortgage. So I suppose she had bought a mobile home (it was for $22k).

I never thought finding this sort of information would bother me. But it does. It hurts to the core.

I hate her even more now. Her friends knew this was going on way back when we first separated. I hate them too.


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I am so sorry you are feeling so hurt. I know how you feel. I'm not divorced yet but it's been a year since my STBX left. He filed for DV in Nov. I know my marriage is over and don't want him back but finding out stuff like you did still hits you hard. I found out that my BIL and SIL were going out with STBX and the OW all along. It hurts to know that other people were hiding this stuff from you and they betrayed you as well.
All we can do is move on and find our own happiness. Things will get better!!!