Hi JP,

I read your "wierd update" and I so want to talk to you. I tried to send you a personal message, but I was not able. If you are willing, could you send me a message, and if possible leave me an email address or phone number so I can get in touch with you. Our stories are so similar, I'd love to get your input on a few things. Thank you so much.

IWHB

Orchid, redhat, or karona can help you with my email. I prefer to know whom I am emailing with before I correspond.

How can I contact them? Does the PM feature on this BB even work? Thanks.

You can contact me by putting an sos out to them. I just try to be a bit stealth here...not putting up my main email addy.

These days, ya never know who's online.

I understand...

Wow Peachy we just have too much in common.
Like I told you before, my X had an afair got OWpregnant, they got married 2 weeks post divorce. They've now been married 4 months. He's angry at me all the time...but I almost fell off my chair when I read you X's first wife was bulimic. Guess what????? Yup, X's new W is bulimic. I noticed it within 3 weeks of her living with us (she was our au pair-babysitter). I also think, based on my counseling experience and my observations of her that she has traits of both histrionic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder. She was just too wierd and unstable for me. I don't want her around my kid. But anyhow.....did your X ever talk about the impact her bulimia had on their relationship? If you'd be willing to share, I'd appreciate it. Thanks.

they married young. marriage did not last long. she was always freaking out and was a teacher. She was probably placed under too much pressure from my xh to look perfect as she was a size 2 probably when they married. and yes, he placed me under intense scrutiny as if I am/was there for his entertainment...thus had to always watch what I ate with him.

She was upset as she tried to control him and he didn't want that. What I have learned is she was a degreed school teacher...and broke up darth and his high school girlfriend..with whom he was engaged...and moved in subsequently w/the teacher...thus, this is darth's character...inability to commit.

The bulemia was a side effect of the relationship...and I can say that I've put on at least 10 lbs since separating from him...

Bulemia did not cause their divorce and was not the main issue I suspect. AGain, I don't know much history. Just that they were too young, and he was stolen out of clutches of his h.s. girlfriend...whom DARTH SAYS I REMIND HIM OF...

It is back and forth always. Between tall girls with stick thin bodies (the ow type for him) and a shorter, more all american figure w/blonde hair (my type and the hs girlfriend type)...Kinda like vascillating b/w the Angelina/Jennifer scenario if you ask me.

I only analyze things now in retrospect as if it can help me with regards to custody issues now.

I haven't read all of your posts, so I was wondering if you could answer a question for me. I read that your X hugged you after your son's birthday party. Was there a time when he treated you like you had cooties or something? My X will do anything to avoid touching me in the least bit. He acts like I have AIDS or something. Yesterday, he came to get S and he was sleeping in my arms. I told X, "He's sleeping we probably don't want to wake him." He said, "yeah," and took the baby aned picked him up in a manner to avoid touching me at all and woke the poor baby up. What's up with that? He can't even touch me in a casual sense? Was your X ever like that?

Just got back from vacation w/my son and then got really bad cold during end of vacation...bleech.

Working and feeling like crud.

My xh and I...as for that, I don't really think about ever touching the guy...I have no place for a WS in my life...or a wacked out xws either.

My xh treated me like I had cooties. I treated him like he had typhoid fever...I don't really wish for Darth to touch me in a casual sense. Not unless he left alien ship and was the most remorseful man on earth who had decided that walking on his knees was more amenable than walking upright...I don't really think about the "what if's" anymore. I do feel regret as he didn't have to do any of this...and see the wreck of lives in his wake. I regret my son has a split family. I regret the life he is creating for the baby...she is learning this is how a man is supposed to be...and that's sad. I just regret and feel horrible about his choices.

But they are HIS...not mine..;and that is why I wake up every day and am ok with life in general I think <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />