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I told my mom and my sister the whole story last night. They are willing to help me and WW in any way they can. I can't believe how awesome my family is. I knew they would be, but man I love them.
I told WW that I told them we were having marital problems. I don't know if I am ready for her to know that they know everything. I'm afraid she will just completely avoid them because of her guilt. She really holds my sister and mother in high regard. Is this a bad move?
My IC went well. My counseler said there is no question that what happened to WW this winter was rape (see My Story link in my sig for details). She said that that, coupled with WW's depression played a huge role in where she is at right now (the A). I am starting to go weekly, and she is going to help me come up with strategies to help WW. I think I like this lady.
ME-28yo WW-29yo DD-5yo DS-4yo
M-5yrs DDay-5\26\05
Click here to read my story.
"Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy." - Leo Buscaglia
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I am happy that things went well, however IC is to help YOU and what you are struggleing with from this betrayal, do not forget that.
As far as telling your mom and sister the truth, you can not hide from things forever, and you will have to tell your wife eventually that they know. sorry
KMEJ
3 beautiful sons,and 1 beautiful daughter!
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me....
I guess it is shame on me.
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I know IC is for me. That is definitely the focus. She is going to give me help in staying strong, avoiding getting depressed, and finding those pesky boundaries. But she is also validating the feelings I have that my wife is sick and needs help. It can't hurt for her to give me strategies to nudge my wife toward facing those can it?
I know I will have to tell WW that mom and sister know it all, but I don't think I am ready to do that just yet. There is still a chance that she will talk to them now. She might even tell them herself. She was very close to my sister before this whole thing.
ME-28yo WW-29yo DD-5yo DS-4yo
M-5yrs DDay-5\26\05
Click here to read my story.
"Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy." - Leo Buscaglia
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I also told MIL about the rape last night. I don't know if it was such a good idea, but I just felt she needed to know the whole story. She already knew everything else.
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