First of all....thank you. Thank you for reminding me (during my hardest times) that I was also allowed to be happy in a relationship. And that I could believe in myself, have courage, uphold standards, and seek real love.

The D has been final for about almost 2 months now, and oddly enough, I am the happiest I've been in a very long time. But it's also taken me a LONG time to get here - years of pain, counseling, and working hard to understand, identify, and re-discover myself. But today I can actually say I am proud of who I am, and I am enjoying life to the fullest.

Thank you.

That being said, jcola (in Recovery) is facing a similar plight with his M - although he is the BS. His first D-day was about the same time as mine. He's faced another setback, and I hear similar despondency with which I started to feel when I began realizing that my M might not survive.

You all helped me so much during that period in my life. Your words were all very poignant and resonating. They helped me to have faith that I would make it - with or without MJR. If you have a moment, I think jcola could use the same support.

Thank you again - you are all an inspiration to me.