He said he wanted to talk about the divorce but, all he did was ask me questions about my where abouts. He wanted to know where I've been and who I've been seeing and talking to.

I told him I haven't been anywhere, he's the one who's been gone.

I don't get it, I saw him a few days ago and it looked to me like he was all set with the OW, his EX and kids.

Now, all of the sudden he's calling and asking me questions like he's still interested in me.

He wants me to meet him for dinner on Saturday night to discuss the divorce. I told him we had nothing to talk about, to just get the papers to me and I would sign them.

He told me that he wasn't sure if he still wanted a divorce, he didn't say so but, it sounds like there's trouble in paradise.

I just keep thinking about the OW and how she's going to have his baby it just makes me angry that he thinks he can come back to me as if nothing has happened.

He kept insisting that we needed to sit down face to face and talk. I'm not going anywhere with him if he thinks I'm going to fall for his garbage again he's sadly mistaken.

I need to hold on to my anger and stay strong cause this is just to crazy.

He's lucky my doctor gave me some happy pills and I've been really mellow lately otherwise I think I would've rip him a new one.

oh...I'm so confused!!!

So, what does he think? That you'll stay in his harem, and help him support the new baby for him? Huh? He's already moved on, but he doesn't want to let go. Keep taking the happy pills, you've got nothing to get together to talk about. You deserve to have a good life.

Thanks for the advise, and yes I'm planning to stay as far away from him as possible.

I don't know what he's thinking and I don't want to know.

The happy pills are great! I think I'll keep them...LOL

I agree.Stear clear of your STBXH.Things aren't so rosy with the homewrecker now I am sure and frankly,I could never ever take my WH back if he fathered a child with another woman while still married to me,Never.It was and is a boundary no one would be allowed to cross.But I don't have to think about that anyway luckily.We are just getting the "regular" post A divorce. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Just "stick to your guns" and maybe it's time for Plan B Redux? LOL

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Octobergirl:

I couldn't agree with you more, I'll never take him back now, just don't think I could handle looking at that baby. Although I know it's not the baby's fault, just the thought of it makes me crazy.

I already told him, all I want is to get the divorce over with ASAP. It's funny how now he's the one dragging his feet. Go figure, at first he was all in a rush to get things done now all of the sudden he wants to talk and discuss things.

Unbelievable, now I'm the one who wants it done and over with quick, fast and in a hurry.

I think that chance meeting the other day was just what I needed to wake me up. There's nothing worse then having someone make you feel like you are nothing which is how I felt. Woke me up though!

Now I'm ready to go, ready to sign the papers and move on but, he's on hold pending his re-evaluation of his feelings. PLEASE... give me a break!



I plan to do just that!

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only, I posted on my thread about not sitting down.

Yesterday I leafed through a book in Borders. Forgot the title, but it was about the scripts cheating husbands use when getting out of their marriages. I'll try to get the title. Anyway, one of the chapters dealt with "sitting down to talk." Don't sit down to talk to him. Just don't. It's easier to be persuaded of something when you are sitting than when you are standing.

They even analyzed it. "Standing" up for yourself. "Sitting" and taking it. Sit down, shut up, trust me, don't make trouble, be a good girl. Passive, not active mode. Stay on your feet. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Bellevue:

Thanks so much for the input. I promise I'll stay on my feet. I don't want to sit and shut up anymore or be passive. I will stand and fight. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Next time he tells me that we need to sit and talk I'll just say, "No thank you, I think I'll stand." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I really do need to stay in control here, I'm afraid of what could happen if he gets the upper hand.

Thank you! you are awesome!!!

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