I am all smiles today...

I just received a call from the process server - we got her! She was here in Houston, and on crutches - as I stated in my other thread in GQII, she was bitten by a poisonous snake over the 4th of July weekend. Karma is finally starting to rare its head. This was a bit of a nailbiter for me, because if she was able to serve me her CA papers first, I would have had to go through much greater expense and anguish. I still may have to hire a CA attorney to file some minor motions, but it will be much less complicated...and therefore much cheaper.

I am gonna get her...

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TM

Alright TM - good news. This will save you $$$. How are you doing ? It sounds like you are feeling better. I hope so. We are watching the weather as we have Denise coming north up the coast of Fl. here. We may have flooding and some good gusts. We are getting bad lighting and more on the way. They had 4300 lightning strikes in one hour and that is on its way here. I am sick of watching this storm - my blood pressure is going to high due to stress. Keep thinking of Punta Gorda lst year. Hope it does not decidie to come here. I am praying.

So has she called you yet. Do not fall for the I want to R at this time. She may just want to get you to drop everything so she can file first. You can always decide later to postpone it. I fear what you will do if she calls and is nice nice to you or crying. Have you thought about his. My first H did this as he had given me the house in our agreement. I told him it was too late for anything and that I could not allow it to happen to me again. He left my house and went right back to his OW. So take care.

I talked to her yesterday - before she was served - and she was full of vitriol an hate for some reason. I think she wants to be mad at me so she can continue to justify to herself that her actions are not only acceptable, but warranted.

As to my mental state, it has been better...although I am relieved to have been able to serve her first.

Keep your head down out there in FL...don't stress out too much, it won't change anything except your blood pressure....


TM

It is funny how we can smile when our WS's get a taste of their own downfalls...a poisonous snake bike is symbolic of the pain us BS's go through with the poison symbolizing the immorality of WS's behaviors. The crutches are symbolic of WS's shattered ego, her lost self, her small self esteem now that she is getting her a** rightfully served.

Hold your head high...only can get better from here, right? I am hoping my draggin a** STBX WH gets a taste of his own immorality soon...perhaps a rattler will get him.

Muels

Hey, when you are done with all that karma-stuff, how about throwing some this way?? I have full faith that God will take care of WH but I am inpatient and could use a few snakes eating his legs!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I am not bitter!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I am ok, really, just can't wait for him to feel something! Geesh!

My life is already better without him! I actually had a dream last night that I decided to check his cell phone just one more time and got sucked back into the drama of the hurt and the lies....scarey! More like a nightmare! NO THANKS!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Glad you are not having to go the more expensive route!

Hey Muels... good observation! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

ANd BTW I think you have a tremendous about of integrity & spirit... geez a teenager?! Do her parents know? Shouldn't she be grounded or something??

My 13 yo DD is just a tad younger than your STBX's GF!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> I mean, geez, I think I would have to kick her little butt from one end of town to another!!

ALL of my children know there are some things you DO NOT do, like dating MM or MW (DS)... and plus, I let them know that it is most important to be with someone who is worthy of them and them alone.... MM and MW are classically "unavailable" and are sought out by idiotic, insecure people who know they are not worthy so they go for less... KWIM?

LOL...think we oughta give that snake a medal?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

TM,

I'm very worried about the condition of the snake, did they kill it? poor snake <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

TMCM

TNT-RN...

Yeah...it was a bit demoralizing at first but as you said and I quote, "we are better off without our WS's". Unlike WH, I have not burned any bridges and have a wonderful society who supports me. WH has lost a lot of respect from many who care about him this past year and certainly is not strong enough to rebuild these burned bridges. Damn, he still has yet to introduce his youngen girlfriend to his friends or at least those who were in his wedding party....mmmmm, I wonder why? Could he be the slightest bit embarassed that he cheated on his wife and had to stoop more than 10 years younger, finding a girlfriend on a what appears to be a low-key porn forum to build his f*cked up and very slight ego????

Cheers,

Muels

TM...they didn't kill the snake, did they? That snake does need a medal of honor cuz it put an immoral human in the right place. Perhaps I'll get my hands on some rattlers and conveniently place them on the front porch of my WH and OW's apartment <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

ROTFLMAO

This seems to be a common trait of the STBXS...my H HATES me...why? what did I do? I filed for a divorce and I wont let him live two lives? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Dont let her get you down darlin! YOU will do just fine! Life is so great for me now! And it is sooooo wonderful that you filed here instead of having her serve you from CA...I've heard that CA is very bad for the MAN...and TX is not so good for the woman...unfortunately for ME, but good for you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

So glad to hear you are moving on my dear!! I think about you often and truly believe you deserve this...to be happy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

How are your boys doing now??

The snake got away apparently, because she did not know what kind of snake it was. I sure would like to find it and keep it as a pet... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

TM,

I suppose the good news for her is that all of the poisonous snakes in this country other than the coral snake which I don't believe exists in TX use the same venom. She would be in a world of hurt in Australia and a few other places in the world.

I take it that her attitude has NOT changed and that she is still the woman you left and NOT the woman you married. I suspect that her affair had a lot to do with her NOT being prepared for her exams. This will take a toll on her she does not expect as Lemonman said.

You on the other hand, need to get it together and head off to create a good life for yourself. Yeah, ridin on Sunday is a good thing, if you have taken the proper precautions...prayer <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />. But, time for a good plan and the beginning of your life.

God Bless,

JL

In Texas we have both coral snakes and king snakes. I was taught the old saying to be able to tell the difference......Yellow on black, friend of Jack. Black on yellow, kill a fellow. Coral's are nasty, as they dont have fangs but have to latch on and gnaw you with their teeth to deliver the venom. Sounds fitting for TM's STBXW.

Hehe, Coral snakes have fangs, however they're in the back of their mouths, and they're fixed...they don't hinge out like a rattlesnake.

I'm an amatuer herpotologist in my spare time...and snakes are my favorite critters.

If she was bit in Fl, odds are high it was a Cottonmouth. Less likely would be a rattlesnake (Eastern Diamondback or Canebrake), or possibly a Copperhead. Not likely that it's a Copperhead if she had much of a condition from it...they almost never even give Anti-venin for bites from them anymore, just a lot of antihistemines.

FL does have Eastern Coral snakes too, btw. But those are REALLY uncommon to see, and if she truly was bitten by one of those, she'd be in a world of hurt!


Sorry ya'll...got me started on something I actually have a clue about!! LOL

Just to clarify...she was bitten in TX...we have lots of copperheads and cottonmouths out in the country here....I have killed a number myself, although I hated to do it...I say live and let live, for the most part.

My bet is cottonmouth, just due to the large number there.

Also, as to coral snakes, almost all documented bites are from people who have been handling the snakes or taunting them. They are not a very agressive species, and like was said before, their fangs are very small. You have to work to get bitten by one, so to speak.

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She is making plans for another trip down to Central America with her OM, to do surgery again. Looks like they're going to stay together for a while. At this point, I say more power to 'em. They deserve each other.

TM

TM,

In TX, I doubt anyone has to worry about coral snakes. Cottonmouths are both nasty and aggressive so that would be my bet if she was near any water at all.

As for her and OM, that was my bet all along. He is without a family until he moves to be near his kids...yeah right, and she has to use someone and you are not convenient right now, so he "wins" the prize as her crutch through life for awhile.

Hang in there TM, this too shall pass.

God Bless,

JL

Did the snake die? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

SURGERY??? What for?

I think you are going to do just fine TM! You are already starting to have a good attitude! If your ever down here, look me up and we can have lunch!