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I finally realize my situation. I guess I just needed to be told bluntly. I have no more hope for this M. I knew it would be tough and I would need time for change, but my H wants nothing to do with us. So I will be bettering my life for me and my son in WA. My in-laws just want us (me and my son) back with them so badly. They hate what their son has done to me and our family. So I am going to be making the move hopefully by the end of the month. Do you all think I should try marriage counseling with my H???? Its worth the shot but I dont think anything can help us now. I am so hurt and confused but I know that I am not happy and my H is showing NO signs of improvement or change. Any suggestions? I have tried plan A and B and neither of them worked.
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If he won't do MC, and end the A then leave. I am so sorry for your situation. I'm glad your in-laws are in your corner. Where is your family?
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my family is in NM but they dont agree with me being Christian (they are Catholic) so i would rather be where i am comfortable. in WA i will have a good church, great pastor, friends and family to support me.
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Cancergirl,
I am so sorry for what you are going through. There is no way to describe the pain. But, I know, the pain does subside.
If he flat out refuses to go to counseling and NC then there is very little you can do. I don't know the entire story but Plan B may be in order.
You are in my prayers....
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CG,
The one constant thing is that a BS can't teach a WS. You can teach and preach to your H but not a WS. NO matter how good your intentions.
With that said, if it is a WS in your life, then you must move forward w/o him as a WS.
Take care of you and your family. The WS will come around, it is just a matter of when and where you are in your life. Some WS' just come around too late.
As for counseling, do some phone counseling. That way you can do it whereever you are. Steve @ MB w/b great.
L.
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