I was recently hit with the line that my wife has been very unhappy, she eluded before and to my fault I pretty much ignored the warning signs. For the last 6 months I’ve been in counseling and have made drastic improvements in my ways of handling things and situations. But she has not been responsive and hasn't given me a chance to show her I’ve really made changes. About 2 months ago she agreed to couples counseling, however, due to the passing of her dad, we had to cancel. Now she thinks that we're done and does not want to go. A couple of weeks ago, she hit with the divorce line again, and I was very angry and told her that she has done nothing to help or improve not even counseling. Well 3 weeks ago she started individual counseling and she thinks it's helping a little bit, however, the counselor suggested a trial separation to help with grieving and sort out her feelings. She left yesterday to her mom's house to sort things out and I assume to help with her mom also. However, her counselor wanted to meet me, which I agreed of course. Now, I’m not sure what to do, avoid contact? How long? I’m sad and very confused. I appreciate any words of advice.....

Married 3.5 years
Together almost 9 years
No kids

I'm so sorry for what you are going thro. I would wait for her to call and be very up on the phone. Keep yourself busy with projects around the house. Do things for you and make yourself happy. Keep busy. Maybe in a week or two after you meet with counselor send her flowers.

Thank you Realtor,

it's just about a week and have not heard from her yet. I beleive her session was last night. My only fear is "out of sight out of mind", but i also want to giver her space and not smother her. this is so tough.......