I asked her to do it, and she kinda just ignored me.

I found his address, but the number was outdated.

Go ask her again. Yours is a reasonable request. She says her affair is over so it shouldn't be a problem.

Is his house for sale? Can you send a letter to that address?

It's amazing how right you all are. I just showed her the letters and asked her to write one and she got pissed and ran off and said I don't no, which means no.

Now WTF do I do? I didn't loose my head, I didn't get loud, I just talked very civil. She's obviously still having the A. I have to get a hold of his wife, this is beyond urgent. At least to me. I'm afraid she may leave with him. Then what would I do. Three children and not enough money to support half of our lives!!!???

Wow, so what was tonights good night? What did that mean?

I'm only let's say 85% sure that's the right address, I have no way of knowing if it's for sale. Too many states away.

Don't do anything else, you got your answer. She is still in the affair. Just back off for tonight. You have to find the wife. Its very doubtful she will leave with him, he just wants some fun, not some other man's baggage.

I think once you get ahold of the wife, you should also expose them at work. That might be the only way to seperate them, navyman. But in the meantime, you can overnight a letter to his house and ask the OMW to call you ASAP because you think her H, A.H., is having an affair with your W down in Fla.

She was probably happy earlier because had talked to the OM and had successfully thrown you off her scent.

Go to www.realtor.com and type in the street and town and see if you find anything.

It's amazing how a clear head can work. I accused her of being with him last night and she said no and got mad. I told her I didn't believe it for a second and I was pissed. I put my job on hold for 45 minutes to get the point across to her. Well, evidentally, she has a friend in it with her(for what reasons I can't amagine) and she called me and told me she was with her all night last night. So I felt like an [censored] and appologized. So it would make sense that she was able to be with her lover and make me feel like a jerk for suspecting it. That would make me happy if I could pull a scam like that too... if it wasn't an affair!!!!!!!!

Damn, I can't believe this crap!

I want to point something else out to you. If you expose him at work, it is very unlikely that they can fire her because she is a subordinate to A.H. [I just realized what that stands for, how appropriate! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />] They would putting themselves at great risk of a sexual harrassment lawsuit if they dared to terminate her. I think exposing him at work would effectively end this affair very quickly because I suspect he just wants a little fun while out of town. He isn't willing to sacrifice his career over your W and will move on, cutting his losses.

She's not a subordinate. She's security, and that's part of her job, stop those types of activities. Believe me I want to more than anything, but I love my children, and I would hate to make them suffer because of sonme fun my wife is having. I'm really torn on this one.

I checked realtor.com and it turns up nothing. I wonder if they've already left. I'm gonna do a search for there name in Pheonix.

That turned up nothing..... I would guess they would change there mail through USPS so it would probably be fowarded, but that could take forever.

navy, your children are suffering very much frm her affair right now. And if you don't stop this affair while you have the chance, they will be suffering from much more than financial setbacks, but from a DIVORCE. Your W can get another job, your children cannot get another family or recover from a divorce.

The longer this affair is allowed to continue, the harder it will be to break it up. Just think about that.

Additionally, one of them will have to leave the company anyway if you expect your marriage to ever recover. They can't stay in contact via work if you want to save your marriage.

Go ahead and try sending the letter to the old address. TRy sending it overnight and maybe that will cause it to be forwarded quicker? Also, have you thought about calling the NC office and pretending to be a friend of Mrs Hoke's and asking for a way to contact her?

You moved back into your house, didn't you?

I did move back into my house.

I've got great news though, I found his home number his wifes name and his home adress, I paid for it, but it's worth it.

Great news on getting the OMW #! What did you have in mind?

I just don't want to call and ask for Adam. Basically starting the phone call off on a deception. I feel it would be down hill from there.

Call me **************.

Why can't you call and ask if this is the home of A.H. who works for XYZ Mortgage company out of NC? Then ask if this is Mrs A.H. If it is, then proceed to identify yourself and give her the lowdown.

What is the time zone? Is it in NC?

oh good, believer is on it! lol