In January, I found out my husband had been involved in an affair.
In February, husband lost $1,700 worth of deposits.
In March, we started paying his company for the missing funds.
In April, more missing deposits were discovered.
In May, I was in a car accident.
In June, husband was fired from his job because of the deposit issue and quite frankly he had it coming, because of some of the stunts he's pulled.

Here we are in the first part of July, so far we've received two letters from his company asking when we are going to pay the rest of the missing deposits. My husband now makes about 1/4 of what he was making. We are surviving on his income and help from the state (which hasn't kicked in yet). I'm fairly confident that he's going to end up in court over this, because that's how this company is.

I don't know how much more I can take this year. I feel like a horribly negative person, but this family is suffering due to his poor choices. I need stability in my life and my children's lives and I don't feel that he can provide it, because he simply doesn't think before acting-very impulsive.

What I need is someone to talk me through this. Maybe someone can help me see the positive in all of this. I don't want this marriage to end in divorce, but if he can't become the rock of this family, I feel that's where it's heading. I'm an open book so, if you have any questions feel free to ask. Also feel free to lambaste me if you feel I need it.

I know things could be worse, but this just hasn't been a good year thus far.

Oh boy Purplesky would love to help ya but here has been my year:

Last October H is in his best friends wedding, doesn't want me to got with him. Marriage has been failing for over a year at that point so I am very hurt and let him know it. But don't go.

November H has to have an emergency appendectomy. I take time off of work to help take care of him, make sure he is comfortable, get his meds, etc. Ya know, be a wife.

December inlaws come to visit for a week.

January H leaves for 4 months of tech training half way across the country

One day later in January I am let go from my job for no reason at all. Never been written up, nothing. Come to find out, it saved my boss quite a bit of payroll to let me go and I am sure that is why. A few weeks later I find out my former boss is trying to get out of paying me unemployment for letting me go. Tries to say it was due to insubordination. Who the hell is he kidding?! Well, has no proof, I finally get my unemployment.

April I talk with H on phone and he tells me he doesn't think we are going to work out, he has no feelings for me but we can discuss it when he gets home.

May, I find out H had a PA last fall ( yea, last fall, when I took care of him, helped him, etc, after surgery. I guess that is the thank you I get for that huh?) And, not only a PA, but a PA with a married woman. Nice, real nice.

June, ask H about PA. Says he doesn't know why he did it and it was a bunch of BS but doesn't apologize for it.

And now, I am in limbo land trying to decide to fight or run like hell for my marriage.

So sweetie, I am probably not much help! :-( But would be available to commiserate over a few margaritas! mlhb

Sounds like something strange is going on. Does your husband have an addiction of any kind - gambling or drugs?

It took me all weekend long to figure out why I couldn't read the thread I started, so I re-registered and here I am (for now Ü).

I'm sorry for what you're going through MLHB. It's good to know that I'm not the only one having a rough go of it this year.

Believer-there is no drug or gambling addiction. It really just boiles down to very poor choices. Again, I know this is very trivial compared to others problems, afterall he is home with us everynight and there is no affair going on, but it's still very difficult for me to figure out what the best decision is for our children and myself.