I will try not to make this to long.
My WH had an A with an employee. The A started in 07/03 and supposedly ended 01/04. The employee continued to work for our business until she left on mental leave. WH never called her to return, she moved on.
Recently, I discovered the A due to STD's that WH gave me. OW was very promiscurous (sp) and had done a 'porn' with a hockey team while A was ongoing. WH had no choice but to confess even though he had plenty of chances before hand...eg. I found his cell phone bills ect...and he denied, denied, denied.
We are presently on the road to recovery. WH has had no contact with OW since 08/04 even though she's attempted numerous times to get together just for 'coffee'.
When I contacted OW to fill her in on STD's (as WH wouldn't call her...) she told me she wanted to fill me on all the details. I caught her in many lies...(I do my homework before I go to a source <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I know some things she told me were true others were not. The biggest one being after she left she didn't want anything to do with WH, even though many confirmed sources had filled me in on the letters and notes. WH even told me about them.
Okay...
so here is my problem...
The other day it occured to me that perhaps the A didn't end when I felt it did...or WH told me it did. This would matter greatly to me...
For during this winter period was when I started to connect the dots. I specifically told my WH that if he even had a coffee with OW, I was walking-out.
Now...something is making me wonder if she left in Aug. because he ended it then. Someone told me that she left in a desperate act to get him to miss her.
When I confronted him, he told me under no circumstances was he with her during last summer. It was ended by then.
When I asked him how it ended...he just said..."it ended, I just stopped calling her..." She said that "she stopped taking his calls...and she ended it..."
I'm wondering if I should email her and ask her if they saw each other last summer...
It might be irrelevant...but in light of the fact that I had a tumour in my breast (that turned out to be benign) only to be diagnosed with a pituitary tumour during this time.
I'm hoping that my WH did not stay with me because he thought I was 'sick'...
Might I add that he has been completely amazing. And also relevant to the fact that my WH is 43 and this OW was 26...(my complete opposite, she has many issues...including drug addict, alcoholic, a history of mental issues, at 25 she had liposuction, a tummy tuck and huge breast implants, she also made a porn with half a hockey team...ect...). She was hardly the time of girl WH would take home to his family, even have a lasting relationship with.
So...
I was thinking of emailing her...telling her that WH and I are on the road to recovery...
and wanted to know if there was anything else she felt I should know about the A.
??????
Any input is much appreciated...
