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HI,
I just wanted to know if any type of counseling would help a cheater from recovering especially if they needed help? If so, what type of help do they need? Sexual or marriage/family counseling? If anyone has gone through this type of experience, please send your words over. Thanks!
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YES! Nothing is impossible. The question I would ask is, does this person want to stop cheating? Marriage/Family counseling would indeed be helpful. I would suggest reading some of the articles on this site to give you some encouragement.
"...beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but it's the middle that counts the most. Try to remember that when you find yourself at a new beginning, just give HOPE a chance to float up...and it will... "
Hope
Me-42 H- 45
D-Day 5/7/2001
NC 7/11/2001
Married 15+ Years
D-13 D-5
More in love today than ever!
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Hi,
Thanks for answering. Well, he won't admit to cheating (but I doubt anyone will). He did say he doesn't want to lose me and throw 11 years away and will do anything I ask him including counseling. I have told him he has a disease and he needs to accept it first and get help for himself. He said he is willing to go to counseling, but needs me to help him. Do I go ahead and take him to a marriage counselor? I just don't want to continue hurting like this and maybe the counseling will help me too. Is there a specific type of counselor that I should look for?
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I just read your other post where you aren't married so I would have answered differently. My suggestion is that you take yourself to individual counseling and find out why you would work towards committing to a man who isn't committed to keeping himself for you.
FTR, many WPs admit to the A.
"...beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but it's the middle that counts the most. Try to remember that when you find yourself at a new beginning, just give HOPE a chance to float up...and it will... "
Hope
Me-42 H- 45
D-Day 5/7/2001
NC 7/11/2001
Married 15+ Years
D-13 D-5
More in love today than ever!
A Hopeful Heart (My Blog)
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Thanks Hope!!
I guess I feel married, especially after being together 11 years with living with him about 7 years. I know I need counseling, but know that he needs help himself even if it's not for my sake. I really don't wish this kind of experience on anyone and have even read that affairs feel like a death in the family. I guess I should feel hate, but like I said all I feel is pity for him that he could not value something great he had. Like my mom said, he destroyed our family. I know I'm young and have great opportunities out there, but am at this point that I want nothing from anyone and maybe being by myself would be good. Thanks and any other advice and words is greatly appreciated.
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