I am an attrictive 47 yr old female. My husband is turning 50 this year. We were married 1 year ago, not our first marriages. After 3 months of marriage my husband and I started a drug and alcohol rehab center, the first man came to live with us in our home. From that day to this one we have moved into a large facility and have 18 men living in the cabins back behind the house we are in . My husband hasn't had sex with me every since the first man moved in. I am so frustrated we had a great sex life in the beginning. I have in no doubt done some terrible things showing my temper , I am just so very hurt. I enjoy sex alot and it is really driving me crazy. We had his testerone level checked and that was not the problem. He says he just isn't interested and that makes me angry and very hurt. I have begged, cried, left the home, and I just feel so lonely and wondering what is my problem except the way I have handeled it. I am at my wits end and I am trying the concepts in the book I know I have drained all of his love bank, but so is mine. He says he loves me and I know I love him , I just can't seem to leave it alone to rest . Every book I have read says it is the man wanting sex not the woman but I need it and want it. How do I handel it I have told him I am fearful that someone will fill that part I am missing and he just doesn't seem to care. What do I do?
Thanks for your response. Mairlyn

Try posting this over on the EN forum, it will get more traffic.

What about things like stress? The shutting it off like a switch does seem a bit odd.

Any book that tells you it's only men that want it is nuts, plenty of women have healthy libido's.

Perhaps he's finding his need met elsewhere? Porn? affair? Gay?

how do i put this in the en area? I do not believe heh is gay, he is stressed and porn is out and I do not think he is having an affair