I've been posting here now and then. My H had the A, he came back home and has been home for 6 weeks. It has been the best 6 weeks of our marriage. We've been on vacation and everything was going great. However, I had this nagging feeling in the pit of my stomach that something just wasn't right. So after losts of praying God led me to calling the OW's mother and I ended up speaking with the OW. She answered my questions, my H had been calling her on the phone for the 6 weeks he had been home, but they haven't seen each other. She invited me to come to her house to look at her caller ID for the proof. I first went and picked up my H at his work and told him we needed to ride down the rode. When he saw where we were going he tried to jump out of the car. Well, to make a long story short, he still had feelings for this woman. I told him that I gave my heart to the Lord and that He would take care of me, if my H wanted our marriage to work and he truley loves me then he would do the same. So on Sunday mornign on our way to church we passed the OW going to our house. We turned around and when we got there I got out of my car and gave her the "whipping" of her life. Then I went into the house and came out with my gun and shot. I know I could have killed her but it was a warning shot for her to leave. My H told her that he loved me and his son and not her and she should leave us alone.
Now, I was arreted on Monday for assualt and battery, which I am guilty, but she still keeps calling and harrassing my H at work. He has God in his heart now and is fighting the devil with everything he has. I can not take any more!!!! We are scheduled for MC tomorrow, but he has hurt my heart so many times I feel he may have already killed my love for him.
Thanks for any help anyone can give.

YIKES!!!!!!!! Have you been reading the basic concepts here? You must calm down. It will do your son and family no good if you end up in jail.

She will undoubtedly get a restraining order against you, and your husband needs to get one against her.

I hope you live in Texas - in any other state you may be in BIG trouble.

Wow! This is definitely not good. This is one of the reasons I moved so quickly into plan B when I found out about my WW's A. I was so angry and well armed that I no longer wanted the thoughts of planning OM's demise running through my head.
Hurt,
what are the options for you here? Any chance you can get a good atty and maybe work out something to move out of the area? Get your family outta there? I know it may seem like you are running from a problem but this escalation is not good for the future of you or your family. Explore all options to extricate your family from this.
I will be praying for you and yours. I would suggest every day as you awaken, before you even get out of bed....ask the Lord to send you the Holy Spirit to dwell in you and guide you in all of your thoughts and actions that day. Really that is the most substantial thing I can offer on this.

You need to surround yourself in the Lord and pray with perseverience. I have no idea of what God called you to do but I can guarantee that He wasn't with ya when you were serving up a helping of country @$$ whoop, nor was He there when the gun came out.... Unless this is normal behavior for you, then you gave her power over you. She won. She may have limped away bruised, battered, and scared but she controled your emotions. You gave them to her. I would suggest you take away her control over you. One way to begin that is through prayer.

Also, if you have some time read the Book of James. It's a short book with tons of helpful scripture that apply to life's rough times...

I really hate to say this but i have been tempted to do the same to to the ow in my case. but i realise that i don't want to go to jail either so i maintain my anger and vent it here. so try and get a little control so your son doesn't have to vist you at the county jail. and follow the others advise and file a restraining order also look into a phone harassment charge. best of luck

Get rid of the gun.

It is good you got arrested. You are dangerous when you are out of control.

I'd say your behavior was more than a "love buster" in your marriage .... Yours was a criminal act with some evil intent behind it.

When is your next court date?

All of my guns are gone now. My Mom came and got them. Yes, I was out of control but what did the OW expect when she pulled into my yard! I have the God given American right to protect what is mine. I DO NOT regret anything that happened that day and would do it all over again!!!!!
I have to go to court on July 28th. I have documentation where the OW has been harrassing my H at his work, everytime she calls he calls the duputies that arrested me that day. They make a report and those reports will go to court with me. The strange thing is, is that on my arrest warrant, they have that it happened at the OW's address and that is not true, she came to my house. I think (after talking to the deputy) that he may have wrote it like that knowing it could be thrown out of court. God is looking out for me right now!! PTL!!!

You do not have a "God given" right to repay evil with evil. Her affair is no excuse to assault the woman. You can't use her sin to justify your sin, dear. I probably would have whooped her [censored], too, if she had the gall to come to my house, but I know it would have been wrong. Granted, she deserved an [censored] whooping, but it is against the law and the wrong thing to do.

Why was she coming to your house in the first place? Did she ever say?

She wanted my husband to come home with her! I know it was the wrong thing to do, but it sure did feel good doing it!!! They did not charge me with shooting the gun, they messed up the arrest warrant, to me that is God working against the devil in my life!

huh?? The police are not the DEVIL, the OW is! And you were were just as guilty as the OW when you whooped her. You cannot justify criminal assault with the sins of others.

P.S. Why don't you go get a restraining order against her? That means if she sets foot on your property you can have her arrested. And it also establishes that she has been stalking your H.

"Yes, I was out of control but what did the OW expect when she pulled into my yard! I have the God given American right to protect what is mine. I DO NOT regret anything that happened that day and would do it all over again!!!!!"

She's gotta be from Texas.

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No, not Texas, South Carolina!!! The deputies told us that they have talked to her and she would not bother us anymore, but if she does to call them and they will do a report! She was not happy when they talked to her and told her to leave us alone, but who cares if she's happy or not. I certainly don't. They say if she doesn't stay away then we can do a restraiing order or no trespassing notice.

Believer, my thoughts exactly - however I didn't have the guts to say so!!!!!!!!

You see I grew up in Oklahoma, and learned to respect Texans at an early age!!!

Plus I went on business trips to Dallas/Ft.Worth frequently, and I learned that they KNOW how to party too!

"She's gotta be from Texas."
Hey, I resemble.....errrr resent that remark! Plus, I have never aimed a gun at anything I didnt mean to kill! That is my creed!

I did not aim my gun at her, I shot into the air as a warning for her to leave. If she had ot left then I'm not sure what I would have done. Maybe I could Plead temporary insanity!!!!!! I told the deputies that if I had aimed at her they would be arressting me for murder. I have guns only because I know how to use them!

Hey hurthearttoo - Are you from Texas?????????????

I hope you know that I am just joking around. You have done what a lot of us would have liked to have done. But I still have to advise you to calm down. We want you to save your marriage, not end up in jail.

I'm not going to kill anyone. And no, I'm not from Texas. But I am a southern gal. Yall can't make me believe that if you had a chance to open a can of whoop--- on the OW or OM, you wouldn't do the same thing!