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Hey guys wh was here last night. I think he put some of his cloths back in the closet. did not have much disscussion last night but stayed until dd2 was in bed before he left. he acted kinda sad. he ate dinner with us and gave dd2 her bath while i ran to the store. then i noticed a shirt that he had taken with him back in the closet. just wondering good sign or what. there are times that i think he wants to come home but is to prideful to do it. i did send him a copy of a letter i found on another sight maybe it got him to thinking about what he is doing
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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One shirt back is probably not enough to go on.
You may very well be right about the pride. It is often a factor.
Are things getting better for you personally?
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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well it was more then 1 shirt some of his good jeand and dress clothes as well. personally i am doing okay. surviving day by day. starting the ad's make a big difference. not as likly to take crap off wh. feel a lot calmer right now. he is on the phone with dd2 now. making plans to see her tomorrow.mmmm. very strange he hasn't spent much time with the kids lately.
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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I don't know why he would bring them back unless OW didn't like them, or unless he plans on coming back. Doesn't make much difference in how you should do things though.
I hope he treats the kids right when he is with them.
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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Joanna, avoid interpreting these actions. They're often done in a state of confusion and turmoil, and sometimes they're a ruse.
The day my W said she wanted a D, she stopped by the house. She left all her things around in a way that made it look for all the world like she was coming home, and went to yoga class. I rested on the couch waiting for her to come back and fought the urge to interpret what was happening. A good decision. She was not coming home. Maybe she put her stuff where she did just to "try on" the idea of coming home, then decided, nope. In any case, just know that these ambiguous actions don't mean much while they're in WS la-la land.
Don't let the location of his clothes determine what you're going to do.
GC
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no change in my plans was just wondering about it. i will continue as planned. i expect nothing and don't read into to much stuff. but he has called me 2 times today and actually asked how i was and how my day was. humm maybe fog lifting a little don't know will just protect myself. i am not going to set myself up for disappointment.
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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Me thinks you ought to remove the shirt from your closet and put in away from view. See how long it takes until he asks you for it. That w/b a conversation starter. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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well he was in the closet looking for some work pants and i could not tell him where they were. have a feeling he plans on being here for dinner tonight again. he hasn't seemed as angery latly but who knows. sometimes i feel lost and confused by the whole thing. but i am being patient. to see how things go. he knows my position on the d and i made that clear in mc last week. can mc help with ending the a ? have not discussed the relationship. so that may be why hes not as angry and i ignore the topic of the a and ow. he has also been telling me where he will be. i don't ask he volunteers the info.
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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