I had my regular IC appt today...only real issue we discussed was my habit of self @$$-kicking for even getting involved with STBXW, knowing what I knew at the time. I am already practicing telling myself that my values are intact rather than "what an idiot I was for CHEATING and M'ing my cheating partner". It SEEMS to be working already...gotta form that habit.

I did tell her that I was really feeling the urge to get out in the dating world and see what it holds for me...no negative comments from her other asking me what my R Red Flags are and telling me NOT to ignore them (dishonesty, regularly drinking to drunkeness, bar-hopping/dancing w/friends regularly, dishonesty, etc.) She also said I shouldn't have any problems inthe dating world...just to be CAREFUL and let things happen...don't go looking for the next wife. I agreed completely!!!!

Anyway, the apt is over and IC says, "So how do you feel?" I said pretty good. She said that she didn't really see any more reasons to continue our appt's as I had moved along well from the nightmare that started four months ago. I told her I would schedule an appt after STBXW leaves, just to close up the loose ends...if any.

It's strange...it's like I got a "Seal of Approval" for being a normal guy! I am on a little high from that!

I still need to feel attractive to women after taking that big shot to my ego on 03/11. THat will come in its OWN time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for reading...

WNB

Yeah! Cheer!

I was told the same thing about 3 summers ago!!! What agreat feeling, to know you survived that you are ok!!!!

DAwn

Thanks!

BTW, Aren't you kinda young to be a Grandma? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

WNB

WHnowBS:

Congratulations!!! I hope to be able to say the same someday soon. Although I had to change IC's the one I had kept advising me to talk to my STBX and listen to what he had to say.

I said, H3ll no!! Why should I listen to a man who cheated on his first wife with me, married me and then cheated on me with someone else, who is now pregnant.

BTW, rumor has it that now he's cheating on her with an old GF. All the while trying to talk me out of the divorce which he himself filed for. So why on earth would I need to speak to him?

Anyway, good luck to you out in the dating world. I know I won't be ready for that for a long while.

Only

Yeah kind of!!!! Just found out that she is pregnant again they will be 18 months apart, what is the girl thinking!!!


I've actually had people tell me that my "son" is cute!!! I will say "thanks, I think that my grandson is kind of cute too" It floors them. I really wasn't looking to be grandma at this point in my life, wanted to do the me things and date!!! I have a ball with him and it's kind of fun watching my D and SIL raise him, I didn't realize she got all of it that I kept putting in.

Dawn