LostHusband,
That's a good one. I'm sure it would be a foul odor.

Healing,
That all sounds good. I will mail them then.

Michele, I am torn between mailing the stuff and trashing it. Mailing it, to me, might imply cooperating with her.

Has the OW's actions harmed your husband's practice? Has he been able to protect his professional reputation?

KAJ,
She has not done anything yet as far as the practice goes. So far his rep is in tact. I want to get rid of her stuff but I don't want to give her any indication that WH is "complying". It is hers and I guess that's enough for me to give it to her. At this point mailing the stuff seems the way to go. Heck I'd bring it to her personally if I thought that would accomplish something.

Michele,
I have followed your situation and just wanted to log on to tell you that you are one classy lady!! You are handling a horrible situation with much grace and tact.
You have mentioned several times that the ow was so beautiful. Honey, she may be pretty on the outside, but like the saying goes...its only skin deep. You, on the other hand, are beautiful through and through!!
Much respect,
RG

runninggirl,
That means an awful lot to me. Thank you.

You're a REAL warrior for your family...I have been following your story since it started...

It sounds like your WH wised up QUICKLY becasue of your solid plan of action.

Best wishes on continued success! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

WNB

Michele, I guess I'd make it obvious that it was you that mailed it back and not your husband.

I have to echo runninggirl's eloquent words. I so admire your grace and composure. You are a class act!

KAJ,
Yes, I will write out the address. It is being mailed today.

I don't even know what to say. The encouragement that all you wonderful people give and then you give more, it's more than touching. It's pulling me up. Thanks KAJ.

Michele
When you mail these items back, get a signed receipt from the post office that she received them. Take a picture of the items that you place in the box and keep both the picture and signed receipt in a safe place. She could end up suing your H for these items and you need proof that they were returned. She'll use whatever tactics necessary for contact and in court is better than not at all.

Do a google search on tactics on how to deal with a stalker. I had to do that years ago and found tons of great ideas. (can't remember them all now). She'll soon begin calling your home. When she does that don't change your home number because an unlisted number can be easily bought. What you do is get a second line that's unlisted to share with family and friends. Take a phone that is linked to the original number, turn off the sound and put it in a closet or under a bed. She'll call and call but assume you're just either not at home or not answering. That way she'll not look for another number for your home. You'll have peace and be able to communicate. There are other ideas out there just go look for them.

She'll get more desperate to establish communication so your guard must be up and running. Make sure your home is secure and always, always lock your car. Keep a camera in your purse so that if necessary, pictures can be taken if she approaches you or does damage.

xow in my case asked me if I wanted her to return all the jewelry he had bought her-that still stings to this day-and quite to my surprise and with an academy award winning performance I said "Naw (yes naw which is not characteristic of me-as if I didn't care in the least) you keep it." She came onto our property, would park in front of our house at night, and would follow both of us around. Their last contact was in 2001 and just a few months ago, stbx told me that she was parked in front of his apartment with is a city away-40 minutes. I didn't even know where he was but she sure did. My point-protect yourself. This woman is nuts!